Is is wrong to KNOW WHAT YOU WANT?

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Is is wrong to KNOW WHAT YOU WANT?
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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 9:57am
I am really sick of guys saying I have really high standards. I happen to call them southern belle standards, because when I am in Texas, those standards are met. Why is it wrong to know what and what you don't want?? Am I being to picky because I want a guy that can treat a woman like a woman, great manners, and a job?

UGH!

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 11:05am

Hi Catherine, it's never wrong to know exactly what you want.

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 11:32am
No, but I know what you mean. I've always been told I expect too much out of people, including my friends. But you know what? I give everything I have to a relationship. I am there for anyone that needs me. Is is too much to ask to get the same back?

Mel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 11:45am
no...there is nothing wrong with knowing what you want and not settling for less than you deserve.

I think it's important to know what is and is not a deal breaker (for yourself), as well as what isn't...and what you are and are not willing to compromise on.

Sherry<with 3 kids, 2 beautiful granddaughters

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:26pm
OF COURSE THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT! There's everything right with it as a matter of fact. Just be prepared to let the chaff fall to the wayside. Maybe the guys who say that have really low standards. What are their criteria for women? Probably higher than expectations for themselves. LOL

I knew I wanted someone highly intelligent, kind, respectful, high sex drive (with high desire to please me as well), creative, and financially self sufficient.

I found guys with one or two of the requirements often enough...but it took me 5 years to find one with all of them. And even the one I found has his drawbacks...such is life, huh?

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Registered: 03-26-2004
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 2:16pm
I think it is right on target to know what you want, expect to get what you want and wait for what you want. Never settle or waste time with someone who will not deliver the basics that you mention. I think we have to be willing to watch and wait - time wasted with a dodo just sets you back and you have to start all over.

I think it is more a matter of timing, too. You have to find a guy who wants someone special in their life, not just a booty call. That is the tough part.