Thanks for sharing this article and your comments with us. I found the stats to be encouraging - - it is a relief to see that there are many more who share our plight and that the stigma of divorce is not now what it once was.
I do agree with you that we are supposed to look good and be all that we can be for ourselves, not just for a man.
Here are some more comments:
- I don't think it is any harder to find a qualified date for a single mom than for any other single woman. I have so many friends, all different ages (20s to 50s), who don't have kids, and none cannot find a decent basic guy who wants a committed monogamous relationship. Most men, in our experience, are happy with a booty call or FWB type of thing.
- A child can be an asset in helping you find Mr. Right. The guy I am attracted to now really likes my son. I have found this to be the case with all but one of the guys I have dated.
- I disagree about the part of a guy with kids. I would not be inclined to date a guy who has young children. I don't want to be a step mom to younger children because I have my hands full with my own child and I cherish my freedom and my lifestyle. The dads that I have met have had bad ex-wife situations and are overwhelmed with their schedules between jobs/kids.
I don't view my divorced state as something to really worry about or comment on. I have found myself and have a lot of confidence and self esteem. I am really happy and love my life and my son. I count my blessings. I would not have all of this if I was still married to my ex. People comment on that all the time, too.
I am more concerned with meeting Mr. Right than with just being in a relationship. And I have certainly learned a lot about men and relationships now versus when I was younger and married. So I feel I have more of a chance of doing things right this time around.
Cheers to us all and to love. They should definitely have mentioned this board. I have learned a lot and enjoyed my time here.
I liked this point: Neal's new boyfriend, whom she has been dating about 8 months, has met her daughter, but "I waited till it felt right; I've found that it's different with every person and every relationship." ... I like that they pointed out that the timing for introducing your child to a SO is different every single time for every single person you date. She waited SIX MONTHS the first time, and it went belly up. I would have thought 6 months would be more than enough time. We have so many people who ask "When is it the right time?" or "How long do you wait?" and I guess the answer is there is NO right answer to that question.
Funny thought: Some men DO feel comfortable with the "mommy on board" look...but why? Kind of creeps you out to think they might just want a "mommy type" to take care of them. That's GREAT incentive to clean yourself up and be more fashionable and presentable. What you look like says a lot, and you'll attract the wrong kind of men if you aren't careful!
I do agree with you that we are supposed to look good and be all that we can be for ourselves, not just for a man.
Here are some more comments:
- I don't think it is any harder to find a qualified date for a single mom than for any other single woman. I have so many friends, all different ages (20s to 50s), who don't have kids, and none cannot find a decent basic guy who wants a committed monogamous relationship. Most men, in our experience, are happy with a booty call or FWB type of thing.
- A child can be an asset in helping you find Mr. Right. The guy I am attracted to now really likes my son. I have found this to be the case with all but one of the guys I have dated.
- I disagree about the part of a guy with kids. I would not be inclined to date a guy who has young children. I don't want to be a step mom to younger children because I have my hands full with my own child and I cherish my freedom and my lifestyle. The dads that I have met have had bad ex-wife situations and are overwhelmed with their schedules between jobs/kids.
I don't view my divorced state as something to really worry about or comment on. I have found myself and have a lot of confidence and self esteem. I am really happy and love my life and my son. I count my blessings. I would not have all of this if I was still married to my ex. People comment on that all the time, too.
I am more concerned with meeting Mr. Right than with just being in a relationship. And I have certainly learned a lot about men and relationships now versus when I was younger and married. So I feel I have more of a chance of doing things right this time around.
Cheers to us all and to love. They should definitely have mentioned this board. I have learned a lot and enjoyed my time here.
VERY interesting:
I liked this point: Neal's new boyfriend, whom she has been dating about 8 months, has met her daughter, but "I waited till it felt right; I've found that it's different with every person and every relationship." ... I like that they pointed out that the timing for introducing your child to a SO is different every single time for every single person you date. She waited SIX MONTHS the first time, and it went belly up. I would have thought 6 months would be more than enough time. We have so many people who ask "When is it the right time?" or "How long do you wait?" and I guess the answer is there is NO right answer to that question.
Great article, Tara!
Oh I totally agree.