boyfriends and babysitting

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Registered: 06-04-2004
boyfriends and babysitting
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Sat, 07-17-2004 - 9:20am
what is your opinion about boyfriends babysitting. i've been seeing this guy for three months and i'm in a bind for a babysitter for a few hours while i go to work. i trust him but i'm worried if i ask him his going to think that i expect him to be my babysitter because he is my boyfriend which isn't true. he has kids of his own and i've left my son with him before while i ran to the store but that's a little different than having him babysit for me while i go work. i just don't want him to think i'm trying to give him father responsiblities. i'm i just over thinking this.
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Registered: 03-26-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 6:31pm
I think it is too early based on your post. When in doubt, don't do it.

I think you should try harder to find someone else to babysit while you work. Maybe a little later you and he will start sharing babysitting duties. But not yet - it has to be his idea first.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 5:00pm

Welcome to the board!


I let my SO babysit my kids after

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 7:44pm
Has he offered? If he hasn't offered, then don't ask.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 11:46am
If you trust him and he doesn't mind - and it is only a few hours I don't see the harm. I have only dated non-dad guys to the point where I would leave my daughter (but I am SUPER protective) and I feel that I have to ease them into it. Most men really love to "help" you - makes them feel manly. I say ask with the "I really don't want to ask you this but i am really in a bind...."

It will be fine! :)

Laura

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 3:21pm
well i asked him and he didn't mind but i made sure i told him that it was just a one time thing because out of four babysitters they were all going to be gone. and it was only for four hours two of which my son was in bed.