What would you have done?
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| Sat, 07-24-2004 - 10:01pm |
I wanted to protect my children at all costs...
My daughter is a very sensitive child...and the day before the accident she and I had run into her cousin (same age...they were inseperable until ex's family became lunatics and we cut them out of our lives).
She was feeling a lot of emtions...because she has not seen her grandparents in over 3 years as well...and remembers them and the fact that they abandoned her
Anyway...because of the accident that we were involved in 2 years ago...I did not want her to see me once again taken away by rescue...on a backboard with a neckbrace.
So, I brought my kids to camp, before calling the police.
I know that you are not supposed to leave the scene of the accident...but my primary concern was for my daughter...
She has been through enough emotional turmoil to last a lifetime over the last 3 years...
Would you have made the same choice?

I don't see where anyone was hurt because of your actions and you felt strongly about this.
I might have done different simply because I have a son and he is not as emotional and I tend to take the honesty at all cost route with him and always explain everything so he learns from our lessons. But this is just me and him.
I was only thinking of my daughter, not what might happen elsewise.
This has come back to bite me. The other driver is claiming that I hit him. I can't wait to get a copy of the police report to read exactly what he told the investigating officer. He informed me that in all of the years that he has been on the force, he had never heard such a conflicting report.
My insurance company is quite empathetic to me. They told me that when there's an accident involving no witnesses, that the testimony of children outweigh the testimony of adults, as it is more difficult for them to lie.
If I have to take this to court, I'm more than willing to go that route.
I find this all the more reprehensible, as this man is a teacher for our behavior disorded students in our town. How are they learning the correct way to behave in society, when he refuses to take the consequences of his own actions?
I can understand your desire to protect your daughter, but I do not agree that sheltering her is the best thing. If you were hurt, you should have gone in the ambulance right away. You could have done more damage to yourself- and that should be a major concern!! You will not be able to take care of your children if you're in the hospital because you didn't go in in the first place.
If you honestly believe that she is so sensitive, you may want to get her some counselling to help her deal with things rather than shelter her from everything. Kids need to know how to cope with stress and upset. Shielding her will only hurt her when she hits the *real world*. Being sensitive to her needs is great, just maybe take a little different approach to it.
I hope that you feel better.
I understand about your child being sensitive and wanting to protect her...and I understand about not thinking clearly when you've been in the accident...but I would have stayed.
About your teacher, the woman who crashed into me ignores the fact that she didn't yield, she was yelling at my witness (kindly man driving behind me who saw the whole thing). That alone is saving my case, that she had a stop sign and I didn't. There's nothing to discuss. I dont' know when it started but there's a real malaise in this country NO ONE thinks they are accountable for their actions. Good luck with your case.
You are right, I do belive that I need to get her some counseling...mainly becuse over the past 3 years she has lost so many relationships in her life.
Her father shows a distinct favoritsm to our son...ans she used to be Daddy's little girl.
I keenly feel her pain, as I too was abandoned by my dad...when he and my mother divorced, not physically, but emotionally.