Venting!! Stupid EX

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Venting!! Stupid EX
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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:14pm
Oh my goodness.. I am so pissed right now.... I just found out that my ex got a DWI and has been driving with a suspended license.. He has been picking up our son once a week, for dirt biking, and our daughter once this month for dinner/shopping. He has had it for over a month now and doesn't know how long it will be for. I can't believe he didn't even think about the kids... If he got caught driving, he would be arrested and our kids would have to see this :-( Of course I went off and told him that he would not be able to drive them anywhere until everything is taken care of and I would bring the kids to him/or his friends (the kids know) would have to pick them up. I am so upset with him and his stupidity. He needs to grow up!!! This is what broke up our marriage/family "alcohol. I just don't want our kids around that kind of lifestyle both of the grandparents (my ex's parents)are alcoholics too. GEEZZZ!!!!

Just needed to vent!!!! I am just ready to move, which we might be moving next year with my SO (he's military). My kids really like him and are ready to move themselves :-)

Take care and thanks for listening.

June
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:33pm
Hi,

it's great you found somebody who you and your kids can get along with, it's just a shame that we still have to deal with our ex's after we don't live with them anymore. I dread the next time my SBX gets in trouble and calls me for help. I don't think mine will ever grow up either, his problems are coke and alcohol. He too has a suspended license and if he is given any kind of custody I will have to deliver my little ones to the creep! The idea upsets me already. Stand your ground , you know what is right , and just remember to tell you lawyer all the "stupid " stuff her does, it is always in your favor how stupid he is. Especially if you want to move out of state with your new guy.

Good Luck,

Mary Beth
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:40pm
Thank you. Acutally I have FULL custody of my kids, and know he wouldn't have fought me on that. I actually got EVERYTHING in our divorce. I do let them see there dad whenever he calls, but now it's a little different, now that I know about his suspended license. My kids have never stayed over-night w/their father either, they don't even know where he lives, which is sad, but I guess I would prefer it that way.

Thanks again.

June

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 5:56pm
June,

I almost had to laugh when I read your post! I sent my son up north to visit his grandparents and his dad for the summer. He too had lost his license from DUI, which I knew about because it had happened last year. So he was trying to pay off the fines to get his license back. Anyways, two weeks ago, he decides that he wants to do this work on buddy's truck and needs his service truck to do it because it's got his tools and welder on it... So, he decides it's a good idea to DRIVE to buddy's house! Well, you can imagine HIS surprise when he gets a cop on his butt because there's no drivers side door on his truck, so what does he do?? HE RUNS! Yep, he thinks that since the cops will tow his truck it'll be better to run home with it so they can't take it. So he screams into his parents driveway with 3 cops behind him (thank god my ds wasn't there at the time). They of course arrest him and take him off to the station, slap him with a 350 fine and find he's got another warrant for dui in another town. GRRR.

Idiot.

So, his parents told him to leave. Thank god. I just don't get how they can't figure out the consequences? He said he did it because he needed the money. He got 150 for the job. Now he's 200 behind... I said, wouldn't it have made more sense for buddy to tow his car to your place? Would've cost the guy 20 bucks and you wouldn't have had the police chase? I also asked him how he's going to feel when his ds grows up and hears all this stuff? He says, "what, you gonna tell him?" I said, 'No, I think your reputation will speak for itself in the small town you live in..."

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:24am
OMG!!!! "Some" men can be soooo stupid. But, there are some smart/good guys out there. I know I found one, and he is the best for my kids and I. I just hope my Ex grows up one day and see's the "BIG" picture, I know it will hit him soon, and I hope it won't be too late.

take care and have a great week.

June/Alaska

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:41pm

Oh my gosh! I'd be PO'ed too!!!!


That's terrible. I am SO GLAD you put your foot down with him and the kids will not be riding with him anymore.


Good news on maybe being able to put it all behind you! Where will you re-locate to? Will ex allow it, or will you have to go to court to get permission?

Becky

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 5:59pm
I am still pissed that he did this though... But oh well. BLAH

Not sure on the relocation, possibly Arizona, Nevada, Missouri, Virginia, Hawaii, Florida, Utah at least that's what is on the wish list (military). Well, my ex won't have any say really, I have full custody of my kids or at least it states this in my divorce (I have custody & control of my children with reasonable rights of visitation with their dad and arrangements made in the best interest of the children.) I did a complaint for divorce since he wouldn't sign a dissolution, and he didn't answer the complaint, so I got everything that I requested in the papers. I would still bring my children up to see their dad and I have friends and family here too. I would stay up here w/them because I won't allow them to stay w/their dad overnight, until he cleans up (alcoholic). Which of course he is fine with that right now, we have been separated 2years, divorced over a year and half and they haven't stayed the night w/him during this time at all. I hope one day he GROWS UP!!!

June