How many girlfriends do you have???

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How many girlfriends do you have???
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 5:45pm

I was reading a post on another board, and I got to thinking....I only have one friend that I go out with, and two or three that I have been friends with since college.

Kim

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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:32pm
I have a few friends for different activities.

There are moms in my sons school whom I talk to about school matters and carpool with from time to time. I have other friends, mostly childless but some married some single who share my hobby and are workout partners and buddies.

I have another friend I email and talk to on the phone - we were SMP (soul mate project) partners for over a year - in other words we shared horror stories about our online dating experiences.

I also have the people I work with.

I don't really have friends to "go out with" - all of my single friends live far away and all of the ones near by are married. But this is okay for now.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 7:38pm
I have three that I consider my best friends in the whole world...and they all live several states away from me. We have been friends though for over half my life and I will always consider them my most trustworthy friends.

When I moved here 5 years ago, I made friends with two women who worked at the same company where I worked. We all had the same silly sense of humor and love of life. When I started thinking about separating from my ex, they were there to support me, and when I did separate from my ex they really helped me through it. They helped me move my stuff and they looked after me to make sure I didn’t cave. At the time they were both single and we would all go out together to dance clubs, movies, bars, etc. Most of the time I spent with them was about meeting men! LOL but now that’s over and I work somewhere else. Most of my time is devoted to my SO, kids and work, but we still keep in touch and catch an occasional movie together or dish about life over lunch.

I also have one really good buddy who is a gay man. He is such a great guy! and we used to hang out together alot when I was single and not ready to date. Currently he is working on a cruise ship somewhere in the Bahamas! But we still keep in touch.

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Fri, 07-30-2004 - 10:24am

Well I have Jennifer whom I have been freinds with since 9th grade -we dont see one another much but we talk weekly. Both of us go thru stages of alot of talk and hanging out and then we meet men and then its not so much - I HATE that we do that- both of us do - both of us know we need to STOP that! Other than that I an very close with my 4 sisters! One of them lives with me now and I do things with them alot. I have 2 other close girlfriends I talk to- but one lives in IL and the other near Boston so its mostly internet buddies.


I also have 2 gay male freinds whom I go out and dance with occassionally and one I went to Vegas with last year for my birthday!

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Fri, 07-30-2004 - 11:33am

Well, I do have one girlfriend I hang out with alot.

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Fri, 07-30-2004 - 12:29pm

Well...I do and I don't.


My BEST friend is my sister. And she lives 1300 miles away. And I suspect that if we lived closer, we'd be part of book clubs, have plenty of coffee dates and occasional "girls nights" with a whole group of girlfriends back there. But I would be the instigator of those. Val really doesn't go out with just the girls much. They are all mommies, and I think they neglect that. I've never been one to, and I'd drag her around with me.


So, for now, we usually have a "phone/coffee date" on Saturday mornings. And we email and chat all week long.


I also have another dear friend that lives back there that I keep up with by phone.


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My mom and I are close. We go for coffee or dinner or garage saleing pretty frequently. It's fun and we enjoy one anothers company. We don't do ANYTHING that doesn't make opportunity for conversation. ie. Movies.


I have a very dear friend here that I USUALLY have a "Barnes and Noble's" night with weekly. But she's approximately 10 months pregnant (seems like!!!) and so we've not been able to do that. We usually get a coffee there, find a chair and chat for an hour and a half, then browse the store for another half hour and go home with a new book! Fun.


My best friend here is VERY busy this summer. I haven't seen much of her. She's my "fun time friend" She'll camp with me, Hike with me, go to coffee shops, go for Margarita night, get with me to get everyone else to have dinner/card parties (both families), go to ball games, we're going to Denver in August for a play...you name it, she'll do it. We have a BLAST together.


So, as I was typing this, I realized I do have more female friends than I thought I did. And of course I always have my DH, who really is my best friend. He hears me out daily, goes to fun things with me, works out with me, and in general keeps me entertained! LOL

Becky

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Fri, 07-30-2004 - 12:32pm
I have 1 very best friend of whom we have known eachother since high school (she was also married to my brother). We don't have alot in common but we care about eachother like a sister relationship, she has been there for me and I for her since the day we met. We usually either go shopping or out to dinner. Then I have two other best friends one in England and one lives right next door to me. When our friend comes home we all go out or order in, something like that. Other than that, it's usually drinks with the guys or just us, movies, we go to each others kids birthday parties, we also go camping together. Then I have a group of ladies that we get together just us, our SO's or our kids. We are all went to see the fireworks together and we have an annual cookout/pool party and also an annual Christmas Dinner. We are also going camping this summer 4 out of the 5 families, which we will try and do every year too. We try and get out at least once a month which is challenging and doesn't always happen but we do really see each other often.

It's kind of funny thinking of the different groups of friends I have. I feel really blessed to have all these women in my life, I have surrounded myself with women who I can truly trust and respect, women who don't judge, women who will always be by my side, women who under any circumstances will be there for one another.

Good question!

Lori

Lori
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Fri, 07-30-2004 - 5:15pm
I have several, but one that I hang out with most of the time. I have two in my home town and my best friend is in Washington state. I'm in Texas. Hardly works out for us to hang out. Then my friend here is the one I see a lot. She's really cool. We have a lot in common. I do have other girlfriends, but we all hang out as couples, not just the girls. Either way, we do tend to get out a lot and have fun.

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Sat, 07-31-2004 - 6:51pm

Well I had 3 good friends until one decided she wouldnt pay an $1800 phone bill in my name and would RUN OUT OF TOWN!!!! (sorry still a little angry about that)


SO.....3-1=2, that's it, 2 good friends left. They are both very different though so we

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Sun, 08-01-2004 - 8:19am
My bestest friend and I met in college and have been friends now for 21 years. We do have many of the same interests -- but i had to get her to like mine, LOL. I turned her on to country music when i was desperate to go to a concert and had an extra ticket -- i didn't want to go alone so she came with me -- and LOVED it. We've since seen 3-4 concerts together every year -- and last year started bringing our daughters with us. Additionally, I started scrapbooking 3 years ago -- and got her hooked 2 years ago. It's a great excuse to get together every few friday nights -- and to go away for weekends (about 2 per year), like we are next weekend (whoo hoo!!!).

My next closest friend is a co-worker, but she doesn't really live near here so we don't go out. We get together in school (teachers), have lunch on staff days and asked to share a room together (teachers will understand how rare THAT is, LOL!).

I also have 2 sisters that I'm close with -- I'm a bit closer with my middle sister so i tend to share lots of personal stuff with her.

I have many acquaintences through my kids' friends' parents, as well as neighbors, but none have moved beyond that stage.

eileen

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:26am
I have several best-friends for different things.

First is Kerstin, who will be 40 soon. She is a single mom whose daughter is 18 and she is my mentor. Works with me in the company. We don't go out very often, once every 3 months, and never talk on the phone, but we try to have lunch everyday.

Second is Petra, 42 she is a single mom who basically has the same luck in men as I do. Our daughters were school mates and best friends before I moved. Now we live 30 minutes away, talk on the phone at least once the week and I see her every few months. We rarely go out, because she always has migraines.

Third friend and closest at the moment is Maggie. Single girl, age 25, X-Kindergarden teacher from Ireland. She is more like my little sister than friend, and we try to see each other every day or every two days.

Fourth is Debbie. My State side best friend since we were in high school. We both very oddly been leading a parrallel life. Our kids are the same age, our divorces (both cheated during our pregnancies)were all the same even, though we had 10yrs of absolutely no contact and lost sight of each. Thank goodness to classmates.com I found her again.

Then the closest aside from them, but on different levels, would be my sister and my mother. We talk about other things other than sex and relationships. With my girlfriends, we always seem to end up talking sex. LOL

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