I want a new guy, but have no time .

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Registered: 03-31-2003
I want a new guy, but have no time .
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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 4:20pm
Hi everybody,

I'm separated and already want a new guy, but how?

I barely have time to get anything done as it is.

Since my marriage broke up I have had to handle everything between the three kids, the bills, the pets, yard work, house maintenance ,full time job, food shopping, cleaning, football practice, family stuff, I'm exhausted everyday. Where would I fit time in for a new guy ? Under all this is a women who needs love, (sigh)

MB
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Registered: 12-19-2002
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 5:02pm

Hi MB, welcome!

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Registered: 04-27-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 9:27pm
Hello bumblebee,

I feel the same way as a single dad. . . no time to date or even to meet someone like you to date. . . and I am sure when you do have a moment you just want to rest.

My question is where to meet other women to ask out?

mark

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 10:44pm
You do have a lot on your plate right now. I think that if you are only separated you are still reeling from your marriage breaking up - I can remember how hard that was and I send my sympathy. It is a real shock to carry the whole house/kids by yourself plus deal with the emotions from a marriage that ended. Most days I went to bed at 8PM and a lot of stuff didn't get done.

It seems to me, from my experience and from reading that of others here, that as time goes by and you heal from the divorce you will find more energy. You will relish being alone and you will find yourself.

Every day will get you there and then when you are ready you will meet someone. The longer you wait the better you get and the better your prince will become.

Hugs to you and your children.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 8:57am
Hey thanks, that really put things in perspective for me. I really just need the time to heal from my last relationship before I start a new one huh? Right now I couldn't really give a guy the attention he deserves. It just gets really lonely being Mommy, I forget how it feels to be Mary Beth. It's just that I've been married for so many years, even though things weren't good between us,he was still there physically. But like you said, as time goes by I will be stronger and the right guy will come along at the right time.

Thanks,

MB
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 9:24am
You don't have to be lonely - are there other moms at those football practices that you can talk to/carpool with?

I think it helps to develop other hobbies and interests and to keep expanding the circle of people that you meet. This is easier to do when you are single versus married.

You definitely need some friends to help you through this. The trouble is that most married friends treat you like you have leprosy when you get divorced so they have to go by the wayside and you have to find new ones, at least from my experience. I was lucky to meet many friends who are single and divorced and I have a pretty good circle now.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 9:46am
You're right, I just have to open up a little.My son just started with this team this year and it's a whole new group of people for me to meet.

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 11:03am

"You definitely need some friends to help you through this. The trouble is that most married friends treat you like you have leprosy when you get divorced so they have to go by the wayside and you have to find new ones, at least from my experience. I was lucky to meet many friends who are single and divorced and I have a pretty good circle now."


That is exactly what happened to me after my divorce, too....the leprosy thing.