Starting over

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Starting over
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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 2:26am
I'm new to all of this, and so am not sure where or how to begin. 15 months ago the love of my life suddenly died-massive siezure/heart failure. No warnings, no telltale signs. Won't make this a grief disscussion, what I'm getting at is where do you begin? I'm 39, spent most of my adult life married-I also have an ex, who took our 2 daughters after Miles died to avoid paying me child-support. Of course he says he "had to remove them" because I could'nt get a handle on "my problems". ( I was grieving )

so for many months I've been dealing with it all & my 6 year old, & my Dad just died. I'm having a hard time with MY Dads death-it's made me wonder how my baby has gone on losing her father at 5.

After reading what I just wrote-how could I have even begun to think of dating again!

But really where do you start? What do you look for? Not just dating-but your own life too???
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 6:25am
I send you my deepest sympathies right now. You have been through a lot and lost a lot.

I think for now you have to pamper yourself and recover. I am hoping you have some close friends and loved ones or family to help you through these tough times. One of my friends had a saying about recovery from things like this - time, people and activities - those are the best solutions. You just have take it one day at a time and know there will be good days and bad days. But it will get better - life always has a sunny day just around the corner.

If it gets too overwhelming you should seek a counselor. Your children need you now and you have to be strong for them.

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 11:23am

Hi, and welcome to this board.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 10:25pm

Welcome to the board and I'm sorry for your loss.