You've got to love like you'll never get

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You've got to love like you'll never get
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 2:55pm
"What You Can Learn About Love At A Concert... "

By Susie and Otto Collins


What we are about to tell you is an amazingly simple

idea that (if used) can dramatically improve the

quality of all your relationships almost immediately.

Although it's a very simple idea, not doing this one thing

will almost assure you of having mediocre or even poor

relationships.

So, what's the idea?

The best way to share this with you is to offer three lines

from a song that Kathy Mattea sang at a recent concert

we attended of hers.

The lines she sang that night were ones she said

that her father had once said to her. We think that these

lines contain a lot of wisdom in three short sentences.

The lines were ...

"You've got to sing like you don't need the money

You've got to love like you'll never get hurt and

You've got to dance like nobody's watchin' "

Since this newsletter is about relationships, we want

to focus on the power of the second line--"You've got

to love like you'll never get hurt."

If we don't love like we'll never get hurt, then we're

spending our time focusing on the very thing we don't

want--and that's getting hurt.

If we're not loving the other people in our lives like

we'll never get hurt, then we're coming to those

relationships with our hearts closed while at the

same time wondering why those relationships

aren't as close and connected as we would like

them to be.

An open heart is one of the master keys to a great

relationship.

What we've discovered is that the quality and depth

of your relationships are directly related to how open

your heart is.

Some of you may have had some past relationships

that have caused you a lot of pain and you find that

you have been guarding your heart in your current

relationships.

Some of you may be in relationships right now that

bring you a lot of pain and you find that you are putting

up walls between you and that other person so you

won't be hurt again.

Trying to have more love come into your life when

your heart is closed is a little like trying to talk with

someone on the telephone when that person isn't

available.

Opening your heart doesn't mean being a door mat

and allowing yourself to be hurt over and over. It

does mean loving yourself and setting limits while

being open to new possibilities, whether with that

person or with someone else.

What if every time you got in your car, you thought

you were going to have an accident? You probably

wouldn't drive very often.

So it is with relationships. If you have the mind set

that you are going to get hurt, you probably will.

You'll probably keep attracting those kinds of

relationships into your life that will be painful in

one way or another.

We've learned that each of us is responsible for our own

happiness and for creating our lives the way we want

them to be.

So we suggest that you begin to open your heart

more and at every opportunity, "love like you'll never

get hurt."

The more you are able to do this, the more love,

happiness and joy you're going to invite into your

life.

CL-Entrepreneurial Women

Business Impressions, LLC

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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 2:58pm
I love the articles I get from these 2 people. I especially like this one, because of the message that it carries. I often read their articles and wonder how can apply it to my life, and I have to say that I have put so much love, understanding, and everything of myself into this relationship that I do not feel I'm holding back. And, I think it shows. Which is why I love this article because it's absolutely right.

Enjoy the article, Hugs, Marilyn

CL-Entrepreneurial Women

Business Impressions, LLC