You've got to love like you'll never get
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| Tue, 08-10-2004 - 2:55pm |
By Susie and Otto Collins
What we are about to tell you is an amazingly simple
idea that (if used) can dramatically improve the
quality of all your relationships almost immediately.
Although it's a very simple idea, not doing this one thing
will almost assure you of having mediocre or even poor
relationships.
So, what's the idea?
The best way to share this with you is to offer three lines
from a song that Kathy Mattea sang at a recent concert
we attended of hers.
The lines she sang that night were ones she said
that her father had once said to her. We think that these
lines contain a lot of wisdom in three short sentences.
The lines were ...
"You've got to sing like you don't need the money
You've got to love like you'll never get hurt and
You've got to dance like nobody's watchin' "
Since this newsletter is about relationships, we want
to focus on the power of the second line--"You've got
to love like you'll never get hurt."
If we don't love like we'll never get hurt, then we're
spending our time focusing on the very thing we don't
want--and that's getting hurt.
If we're not loving the other people in our lives like
we'll never get hurt, then we're coming to those
relationships with our hearts closed while at the
same time wondering why those relationships
aren't as close and connected as we would like
them to be.
An open heart is one of the master keys to a great
relationship.
What we've discovered is that the quality and depth
of your relationships are directly related to how open
your heart is.
Some of you may have had some past relationships
that have caused you a lot of pain and you find that
you have been guarding your heart in your current
relationships.
Some of you may be in relationships right now that
bring you a lot of pain and you find that you are putting
up walls between you and that other person so you
won't be hurt again.
Trying to have more love come into your life when
your heart is closed is a little like trying to talk with
someone on the telephone when that person isn't
available.
Opening your heart doesn't mean being a door mat
and allowing yourself to be hurt over and over. It
does mean loving yourself and setting limits while
being open to new possibilities, whether with that
person or with someone else.
What if every time you got in your car, you thought
you were going to have an accident? You probably
wouldn't drive very often.
So it is with relationships. If you have the mind set
that you are going to get hurt, you probably will.
You'll probably keep attracting those kinds of
relationships into your life that will be painful in
one way or another.
We've learned that each of us is responsible for our own
happiness and for creating our lives the way we want
them to be.
So we suggest that you begin to open your heart
more and at every opportunity, "love like you'll never
get hurt."
The more you are able to do this, the more love,
happiness and joy you're going to invite into your
life.

Enjoy the article, Hugs, Marilyn
CL-Entrepreneurial Women
Business Impressions, LLC