Stuck in Limbo.....Help!

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Stuck in Limbo.....Help!
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 11:04am
Ok, so I am in the process of a divorce. I have a six month old daughter. I just moved in with and will be living with my parents for a long time. I HAVE NO LIFE! I got to work, I come home and take care of my daughter, that's it!

I don't quite fit in with my single friends, and there aren't many of them left anyway and I don't quite fit in with my married friends. It's not like my daughter is in school so I can't meet other single parents that way. I am trying to find a circle of friends (i.e. single moms). The only moms groups around my home are for stay at home moms and that's not me. Where else can I look?
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 11:09am
Head to the park when you get home. You will meet lots of people there, and hopefully if you see someone enough times, you will become friends with them. Ask around to those people at the park if they know of any clubs, groups or meetings for single parents. Check out the community centres for parent and tot swims or activities. Also, if she's in daycare, you might try chatting up some of the other moms there.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:12pm
When my daughter was about 8 months old, I enrolled her in a Gymboree class.

Kim

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:32pm

Hi


I think you need to find some activities that you would enjoy both with your baby and without.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:50pm
Your story sounds just like mine. I moved back in with my parents when my son was only 5 months old. Then, the lengthy divorce process began. It was very depressing. I'd go to work, come home, go to work, go to court, pay legal fees, go to work. All the time, I was taking care of a young infant. (((HUGS)) to you, I've been there.

I met some wonderful women through iVillage on the parentsoup boards. Some of the women were local to me. One lives just 20 minutes away. Our children are 5.5 yrs old now and we are still very active with each other. We are still friends. Those women really helped me a lot. I was the first to get divorced, but not the last.

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Registered: 05-05-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:51pm
Your life sounds like my life for the first two years after my twins were born, except I wasn't living with anyone. I felt real isolated, so it's important for you to meet people so you don't feel that way too. I posted some suggestions yesterday about singles clubs. Try Parents Without Partners website: partentswithoutpartners.org. You put in your state and it tells you if there are any chapters in your area. I used to know someone who was in that club, and she loved it. She met a lot of people because they have a lot of activities. I found a club by my house, Single Parents, Inc. I just searched on Yahoo. I put in "single parents in (put in your state)" and you should come up with something. Then you can click on the individual responses to see what they are. What I like about the club that I found was that they have just as many activities for families as they do for just the adults. This way my kids can meet new friends so and have some fun. I don't know if you are religious, but churches are also a good resource for something like this. Also, check with your park district. My park district had great mom and me classes, but they were all during the day, and I worked. Also, if you can afford it, a gym would be a good place to get out and meet people, as long as it has a playroom for your daughter. Don't give up. You'd be amazed at what you can find if you look hard enough. Good luck to you.

Donna