Need hugs and +++ thoughts & prayer

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Need hugs and +++ thoughts & prayer
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 5:41pm
At the law firm I used to work at, I worked with a woman, Geri. Geri is in her mid-50s, and her and I just really clicked. Long story short, I love her. Since leaving the law firm, I have spoke to her several times, and we've met a couple of times for lunch or for an afternoon of shopping. I called her today to check in and was told she was out sick - so I called her at home. She answered the phone and soon as I said, "HEY, Geri! It's Min!" she started crying, crying, crying. She is a breast cancer survivor. In the past two weeks, she has had alot of pain in her chest (she had a total double masectomy 3 years ago - so where her breasts were), in her rib cage, and down in her abdomen. Today, the right side of her belly is swollen to the point that she can't wear her clothes - not even her underpants because the pressure and pain is so terrible. She went in on Friday for every test known to man - and she is waiting for results. I wish I could go hug her. Normally - I would be there in a heart beat - but I am sick with a horrible summer cold and I don't want to expose her to anything - as I know her immune system is already horribly weak (and she said "I wish you could come see me but being around someone with a cold scares me" which I totally understand.) I will check in with her everyday - but until I am well - I can't go hug her - which is what I know she needs right now. Her daughter accepted a position in Minneapolis and moved back 6 weeks ago, her dh is . . . well . . . he's scared out of his mind and not good at being supportive, and for the most part - the people where she works are all big jerks - more concerned with her work not getting done than anything else.

Whatever your beliefs - would you think of Geri and send her lots of positive thoughts and prayers? I would really appreciate it. Thanks.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 5:49pm
Will be praying for Geri as often as I think of her Min. And for YOU too, so you can be well enough to go and encourage her in person!
Becky

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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:40pm

Oh of course!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 9:54am
praying for Geri, for strength, for calm, for health. ((()))
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 8:07pm
This is a serious situation for sure - and so scary at best. My thoughts and best wishes are for her and her family.

A story like this reminds us all to appreciate our health and stop worrying about the little stuff.

Keep us posted.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 9:27pm
What a terrible and scary place for her to be right now! I will think many positive thoughts and send prayers for her. I hope she not only gets an answer to what is happening to her, but that it is treatable and that she may recover quickly, and that he friends and family have the ability and the strength to support her at this time. She is lucky to have a good friend like you.

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 10:12am

Min, I'm so very sorry.

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 12:14am
How is she doing??? I hope she is able to keep her spirits up....

L

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 12:04pm
Thanks to everyone.

She is not doing very well.

She got blood work back and there is definitely cancer somewhere due to her white blood cell count being off the charts. She went in for a bone scan on Wednesday. She is still waiting for all of the official reports from the radiologist and oncologist (who is on vacation until next Thursday) to see exactly what it is, exactly where it is, and then will probably have to go in for biopsies.

I talked to her last night for quite awhile and she just cried. I want to BEAT her husband. She hasn't been feeling well at all, she has been going through all of this, and although he had the day off on Wednesday, he didn't go with her to her bone scan as "it's too hard on me emotionally." He got home from work last night and asked if she had been to the grocery store and if she had something planned for dinner - she replied no - she had been tired and in pain all day and had just slept. He made a comment about having to care for her financially (she hasn't worked for 2 weeks) and NOW having to "wait on her hand and foot". He made himself a BLT for dinner and didn't ask her if she wanted anything. I swear to you all I have half a mind to grab a baseball bat and my dad (who is OOOHHHHH so willing - and who knows Geri) and go give him a wake up call. I told her that I was feeling better and have been on antibiotics for 4 days now, I was given the all clear from my doctor, so I'm going over on Saturday along with a housekeeper and she will clean for her, do her grocery shopping, and I will make a couple of meals that can go in the freezer and be reheated in the oven and just keep her company. Last night she said "I want my mom. I want someone to just hold me and hug me and tell me it's all going to be ok. My mom would do that for me." (Her mom is dead.) So I plan on going over there and holding her and hugging her and telling her it's going to be ok. I can't believe her arse of a husband isn't doing that for her. Actually, I can.

I called and talked to her daughter last night (she's a little younger than me, and when Geri and I worked together her daughter would often join us for lunch - and then we started hanging out on occasion the two of us) and she is coming to Vegas for Labor Day weekend. She JUST started a new job in Minneapolis, has no financial safety net and can't afford to take time off and is feeling so terrible about not being here for her mom.

Keep up the positive thoughts and prayers for her. She said last night that she's been through this once already, lost both of her breasts, and doesn't know if she has the will power to do it all over again.

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 12:57pm

Her husband is a real jerk!

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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 2:38pm
Awww...I'm so, so sorry. Keep us posted.

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