1 mOnth 2 soon 2 be in luv

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1 mOnth 2 soon 2 be in luv
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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 11:11am
Ive been with this guy alittle over a month. WE spent practically everyday togheter. I feel like hes the one. Im totally in love. BUt am i only kidding my self. Is it to soon for this?
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:04pm

Everyone reacts differently. I can fall in love quickly if the situation is right. Good feelings about the guy, being treated like a lady and not like a piece of meat, he makes time for me, includes my son, and yeah, the physical aspect of love is huge for me. If he's a bad lover, it's not gonna work.

But someone else might need a lot more time.

My parents began dating and 10 days later, they were engaged and 4 months later, they were marrried. That was 1969. They are still married. SO I believe you can fall in love quickly and it can be forever.

Mel

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:31pm

It isn't too soon to be in love. It is to soon to make any lifelong commitments to this person - because I think you love what you know about him. And you don't know much after a month - no matter how much time you've spent together (and I'm going to add I hope you don't have your child with this new guy practically every day) - because a person can be on their very best behavior for SEVERAL months, or they can have one month that is particularly good.

Enjoy the feeling, and take your time!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:54pm
It's not too soon to be infatuated, and it may be love. I do think it's too soon to know if it will last. Lasting love, mutual respect, trust - all things that relationships should be made of - are built over time, IMHO.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 2:37pm

Of course you can be "in love"...right now is the time when you're crazy about each other, the hormones are kicking, you can't get enOUGH of each other, and you don't have much in the way of "joint issues" to fight about.

Now, whether you LOVE each other, with the kind of love that will make it through the years...it's way too soon to know that. When the rapid pulse and the "I can't WAIT to be with you again" fades, and there are bills and money issues, and the car has to go to the shop today, and who is going to be the one who doesn't have a car, and you have a sore throat anyway, and he just said something uncomplimentary about your thighs, and you can look at each other in the bathroom mirror with the bedhead hair and the frumpy jammies going on and still feel warm and fuzzy for each other. THAT is love. Knowing about that only comes with time. How long is not the same for everyone...

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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 4:15pm

"you can look at each other in the bathroom mirror with the bedhead hair and the frumpy jammies going on and still feel warm and fuzzy for each other. THAT is love."

I love that. I know that feeling. I get up each morning before Shane and get Dylan ready. I never get dressed before Shane leaves for work. I just take D to school in my pj's and flip flops and crawl back into bed with Shane. I'm in jammie pants and a big t-shirt usually with bedhead and sleepies still in my eyes and he still manages to come over and wrap his arms around me as I iron or whatever I'm doing. He can walk around in some old shorts and a t-shirt with holes and I'm still so in love that I overlook that hideous outfit. It's nice that I can frump around and still be beautiful to him, but I never take advantage of that. I do always shower and apply makeup even if I'm staying home all day. I want to take the effort to look good because he's worth that too.

Mel

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 7:22pm
Sure you could be in love, but it's too soon to know if the relationship is good for you or not. Any person can be a saint for a month or two. It takes time to know a person's real character.
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 7:49pm

I think you might have wanted to post to another person.

I've been with Shane for over a year and we're married and expecting a child in April, to it's pretty safe to say we know it's love by now.

LOL!

That's alright! I've posted to the wrong person before MANY times!

Mel

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