What makes women happy?

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Wed, 12-22-2004 - 4:01pm

This was an interesting article, I thought. I am not too untypical. For whatever it's worth, I might print it out and take it to DH and say "SEE??? I am NOT so different and hard to understand!" lol


http://webcenter.health.webmd.netscape.com/content/article/98/104696.htm?DEST=WebMD_contentSRC_nsmain

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 11:14am

I like that article a lot. I find that housework is not enjoyable at all and because I stay at home, it's mostly what my day is made up of. And I get little time to socialize because my friends work. The time I sit in front of the TV during the day is about the most enjoyable part of my day and that's pretty sad. Right now, it's too cold to get out and do much and in the summer, it's too hot. So unless I want to bundle up or strip down to practically nothing, I have limited dates I can go out much.

Shane's new job takes him on a longer commute so he's getting used to that and is tired. Too tired for sex. And I'm a frustrated woman right now. Especially when I "help him out" and he doesn't "return the favor" instead just rolling over and sleeping! HELLO!!!! How much effort does that take??? I agree with the article on the sex thing. It's a big source of enjoyment. And we want it.

The worst part of the day is when I clean up and get it all put away and then Shane comes home and lays stuff around instead of putting it where it goes. Or gets stuff out (the worst is bottles of soda) and leaving them open and on the counter to warm up and get stale. Then he gripes that he has stale soda. There is a solution to that. Putting it away when you're done pouring it. And then gripes at Dylan for not putting stuff away. So that puts extra responsibility on me. Not enjoyable. No wonder I wake up so much at night. My day sucks and I'm not sleeping well because of it.

Boy this put a lot in perspective for me. Thanks for posting it!

Mel

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 11:40am

HA, if I "helped him out" and got nothin', he'd be gettin' no help from me again. Hasn't he ever head of "ladies first"? LOL

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 11:54am

Well, personally I've no problem with occasionally giving an "unreciprocated" favor, because I appreacite it once in a while. In the end, it all balances out. If it were imbalanced in any way, we'd be having a chat, you had better believe. And I'd be much less likely to be handing out those kinds of gifts.

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:04pm

occasionally is ok, if reciprocated and balanced. Yes.

My experience has been that they come to expect and balance goes out the window. LOL So I don't go for very many such gifts.

Is this gonna be another one of THOSE threads?

I'm bored today.... :)

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:09pm

If you're bored, keep it rolling. Long as we stay inside the TOS! ;)


I personally haven't encountered one that didn't LOVE the balance. So, no one has ever come to expect freebies. J RARELY likes them. He doesn't feel it's fair and I usually have to say up front "ok, here's what I am gonna do and here's what I DON'T want you to do" ;)

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:12pm

well, well...you ARE the woman in charge...telling him what not to do. I like that.

Did we ever discuss what J is packin' or did you avoid that conversation?

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:14pm
I've given a freebie that I didn't know was going to be a freebie at first, so when he was done and it was clear I was not getting a turn, I took care of myself. He ended up 'helping out' and I got what I wanted after all. If he rolls over and tries to go to sleep, let him know you aren't finished in your own special way... the louder the better... and see if he can really manage to go to sleep :)

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:16pm

woo hoo! here's to our own special way! You're right, not many guys would be able to resist peeking...let alone be able to stay asleep. ROTFL

Might be time to get out a toy.

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:20pm

I think HE likes that once in a while. ;)


I didn't join that conversation. Major MAJOR funk that day. Didn't even feel like it. HOWEVER, a couple of days later I did the "hand test" that you mentioned. Surprised to find things just shy of average. Just under 7. I was pretty surprised. But it makes me happy. There are things that I can do that any more length would just not make enjoyable. ;) And you better believe he knows what to do and feels ZERO insecurity about it.

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Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:23pm
that ain't average. I think average is 5...you lucky devil.

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