So now he's alllll mine...
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| Sun, 01-02-2005 - 11:28pm |
Well, it's official, we're living together now! Thankfully our landlord offered us the whole basement, the extra space has been great. Now I'm painting a little to cover the putty on the drywall, so the place isn't put together completely, but almost!
Something was bothering me the other night, and after being bugged a few times about what was wrong, I brought up the fact that I felt like I was doing all the things around the house on my own- something I had felt like for a while. When the two of us first got together, I would make dinner and then he was on the dishes right away, but after a few months, that stopped. So I told him how I felt, and said that I didn't mind taking care of more than him, since I am only working part time, that is only fair to me, I said "when you have a day off or a day where you don't work until the afternoon, I would appreciate some more help around here." I told him too that I didn't want to feel like a nag, nor did I want to become one, and I laid out exactly what I wanted help with.
His reply?
He was really sorry. He realized that he had started to take things for granted and had gotten used to me taking up all the slack when I had been off work after I had quit and had a few weeks where I was looking for work. He apologized for not helping me, and sees my point. He said he would make more effort to ensure things were done, and not just sit down right after dinner or getting off work.
So, did things change? Yes. He is back to the old ways with helping after dinner, and I have even gotten him to actually walk the socks and underwear INTO the laundry basket! LOL
My ex would've just gone on about me being a nag.
What a change!
I'm really impressed.
Alison


VICTORY!!!
I am VERY glad for you that you could say how you felt and ask for something and he actually TOOK HEED! Good job!
Hey Congrats!
On the moving in together and the great communication between the two of you! I am in a similar situation with my honey, where he works full-time and I only part-time. And we've had that discussion/argument before too. Sometimes he's really good about it and sometimes not so agreeable. So I'm glad your honey was open to hearing how you felt and doing something about the situation.
Hope you all are going to have a great time together!
Hugs
Tara