rearranging rooms again. :)

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rearranging rooms again. :)
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Sat, 01-08-2005 - 1:27pm

I am rearranging my bedroom today and the living room will happen soon.

As I was working last night I got sad thinking "well, here I am, arranging another man out of my life" because I put away some thing that were remembrances of trav. I was hoping that this time I wouldn't have to arrange him out, that it would be permanent. But after a few months of not much communication with him this year I had to admit that, after a really great start (lots of phone calls, seeing him several times a month even though he was travelling)things were trailing off and he "just wasn't into me" enough to put in the effort.

Then I realized, I wasn't rearranging as a reaction to a guy being gone (like I used to do)..because I ended it with him before the holidays and I had LOTS of time to do "cleansing" while I was off that week. I am just ready for something different and had some new ideas about what I wanted in my room. Clearing out things that are memories of him is just something it's time to do. I'll put them away. He's not a bad memory, there was a lot of good that came out of it...he thought highly of me and knew I could do/be anything I chose to do/be.

So, it is different this time around. I don't hate him...as a matter of fact I still love him for who he is, he's just not for me.

I found and ordered the "PERFECT" tables for my living room last week. I decided, after years of mix and match stuff, I wanted matching end tables in my living room. LOL...they should get here next week. I'm excited.

Anyone else doing "rearranging" around the house?

It's all good...I'm ready for a New Year.

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Sat, 01-08-2005 - 3:00pm

I'm not but I should be. We keep talking about doing something with our bedroom but I hate it so much that I don't even want to start. What I really need to do is tear down a wall that closes off the closet so I can make it a walk in. I really hate our closet. But it's an apartment and I don't want to do alot of work to it, since it's not ours, make sense?

Good for you for doing some rearranging and cleansing. Hey, if it's partially because you need a fresh start, there's nothing wrong with that. I do think though there's something about the after the holidays come and go and things settle down that make us want to take on a project. ;) I think it's like ingrained in us girls or something. We need a project, need to have something to work on and see progress and then see the finished product and go "ooh ahh". :) Then on to the next one!

Tara

 

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Sat, 01-08-2005 - 5:51pm
It sounds like you've got a great attitude and you're being very productive!
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Sat, 01-08-2005 - 8:08pm

I know what you mean about being sad for having to "reorganize" stuff to get Trav out of your life. I know that is sad. But I do think it is great that you are cleansing - that is a very good and healthy sign. It sounds like that book is working already!!

You asked about rearranging - well - I have been rearranging for the past 2 years around this house and now I am in the position of MAINTAINING law and order so to speak. To keep it picked up and clutter free and organized.

My biggest job right now is to finish the two scrapbooks I started this summer in hurricane season. One of them is for my triathlons/racing and the other is for my ds. He has a LOVELY scrapbook from when he was a baby. But from 2 until 8 the pictures are piled up high in a box.

If you are into rearranging now and want to see a hilarious movie, go and rent Under the Tuscan Sun. This middle-aged beautiful professor endures a divorce and is really sad. Then her friends buy her a ticket to Italy. While she is there she purchases this very run down villa. And as her villa is renovated, so is her life. That was the movie that inspired the past 2 years of rearranging and decorating for me.

Also, I am head over heels for the show, Sell This House. It really teaches good basic design lessons because they show common mistakes that the average person makes and how to fix them quick and cheap.

I repainted all of the rooms to warmer colors to compliment the cool color of the floor. And I added in a lot of accent pieces. I put granite tiles in the kitchen (much cheaper than regular granite but looks just as great); had undercabinet lighting installed. AND I sold all of my old dishes on ebay and bought a whole new set. I installed california closet organizers in my bedroom and ds's bedroom - it makes a big difference. AND we moved everything around in the garage so it is ultra clean and organized.

I also redid my bathroom - all new colors. AND I redid the guest bathroom with new colors.

I had a lot of fun bargain hunting on ebay and in this store called Old Time Pottery - it is HUGE - bigger than Walmart - with neat stuff like pier one - and even cheaper than walmart. I will see if I have some pix to dig up - we were photographing everything for insurance for the hurricane.

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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:24pm

I am dying to Candi! I want a matching bedset for once in my life SOOO badly.


But a new house (with ROOM for new stuff) has to come first, so I'll continue to be patient.


GOOD FOR YOU on your great attitude toward Trav!

Becky

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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 10:58pm

Don't get me wrong Beck, I am not glad you're deprived...but it does make me feel a LITTLE bit better that I'm not the only one who's never had a matching bedroom set.

Anyone else never had one???

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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 11:31pm
I haven't. I had a headboard with matching nightstands, but the dresser was a hand-me-down. I gave the bedroom furniture to my ex, I really didn't want that to remind me of what we never had. Right now I have no headboard and a different hand-me-down dresser. I have all white bedding and it's a nice minimalist look. I like it.

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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 11:43pm

Ack - until recently I didn't have one. My sister had given me this bed that is that white-washed pink oak. But I had no other furniture - only some broken down bookshelves as make shift nightstands.

One day I was in the furniture store clearance center looking for night stands and saw the most beautiful dark carved wood ones. They didn't match the bed but I loved them so much I bought them, along with a beautiful armoire. I said that I would either paint the bed to match or buy a new bed because it was so hard to match that pink oak color. The cost of the new furniture was amazing - I think all was worth over $1000 and I got it for $300. I had to rent a truck and get help to unload at my house.

My painter painted the bed to match the nightstands. So now it all matches.

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Tue, 01-11-2005 - 9:13am

WOW, me too! We had just gotten our first king size mattress 6 months before the divorce and I sent it with the ex, I didn't WANT to be in that bed ever again. Now I have my own king size (took me a year to get it).

We never did have anything matching though, he was too cheap.

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Tue, 01-11-2005 - 10:43am

LOL!!!


You know, my own baby (little Ty) had a matching crib, and changing table and dresser and I was SO DANGED proud that at least ONE of us had something that matched at some point. ;)


One of these days I'll go to "furniture row" (where all the furniture shops are here) and pick out WHATEVER I WANT!!!!!!

Becky

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 3:31am
Hi! Never had a matching set until last year (and I'm 40 something) but I wouldn't recommend my method of affording it - my late husband's insurance was the only thing that made it possible!

MS
A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

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