How to meet men......share your thoughts
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How to meet men......share your thoughts
| Wed, 01-12-2005 - 7:01am |
How to Meet Men
It's so easy for some...but the rest of us could use some help. Follow these steps and you are sure to meet men.
Steps:
1. Shoot pool at the local pool hall - this is especially useful if you have any skill.
2. Watch sporting events at a sports bar with some friends. Your friends might talk to his friends...then he will talk to you.
3. Hang out at a popular surf beach - but try to at least look like you are doing something other than trolling for surfers.
4. Join a local sports league - every Tuesday night will turn into a "buffet des hommes."
5. Find out if your local bike shop has a biking group you can join. Or, go to a popular bike trail and hang out at the popular resting spots - but don't linger too long.
6. Do your laundry at the laundromat. Check his laundry basket to make sure he's single.
7. Grocery shop late at night or late Saturday morning. Check out his eating habits by the contents of his cart.
8. Walk your dog. If you don't have a dog, walk your neighbor's dog.
9. Join a local community garden.
Tips:
Do the things you love to do and you'll meet guys who have similar interests.
A friendly smile is a great ice breaker.
If you have done the above and still cannot meet men, you should ask yourself if there are bigger issues at hand - or consider moving to a new town where there are more men.
It's so easy for some...but the rest of us could use some help. Follow these steps and you are sure to meet men.
Steps:
1. Shoot pool at the local pool hall - this is especially useful if you have any skill.
2. Watch sporting events at a sports bar with some friends. Your friends might talk to his friends...then he will talk to you.
3. Hang out at a popular surf beach - but try to at least look like you are doing something other than trolling for surfers.
4. Join a local sports league - every Tuesday night will turn into a "buffet des hommes."
5. Find out if your local bike shop has a biking group you can join. Or, go to a popular bike trail and hang out at the popular resting spots - but don't linger too long.
6. Do your laundry at the laundromat. Check his laundry basket to make sure he's single.
7. Grocery shop late at night or late Saturday morning. Check out his eating habits by the contents of his cart.
8. Walk your dog. If you don't have a dog, walk your neighbor's dog.
9. Join a local community garden.
Tips:
Do the things you love to do and you'll meet guys who have similar interests.
A friendly smile is a great ice breaker.
If you have done the above and still cannot meet men, you should ask yourself if there are bigger issues at hand - or consider moving to a new town where there are more men.

Where did the list come from? I'm curious.
I have played pool for several years here, I used to play once or twice a week and I NEVER, I repeat NEVER met a man there in a way conducive to dating. There was friendly conversation at times, but most of them were there to play POOL!
I've met men at karate, but...guess what...they are there to practice KARATE!
I meet men in Grad school...you guessed it they're there to be STUDENTS!
The iglesia is definitely more men than women...and...they're there to worship God, not meet me.
And vice versa...
Meeting men is not really such an issue if you are out doing things. I meet LOTS of men AND women. I don't think you can expect to get dates or mates out of that though. That is a whole different issue. The suggestion at the end that you "ask if there are bigger issues at hand" doesn't ring true to me at all. With all the activities I am involved in, I am in them for the ACTIVITY, not to meet men, which is as it should be. And I don't see that as a problem.
If you go with the "he's just not that into you" theory, then whatever you're doing, if someone is interested they will make contact. Like the example in the book of the guy in a bar who tried to get the bartender's phone number. And she gave him her name and said "I'm in the phone book"...he called 8 people with the SAME NAME just to find her!
I don't think worrying about "bigger issues" being the problem is a good idea at all. Forget the "I want to meet a man" thing and just...LIVE your life.
just my humble opinion
Candi
I agree totally, Candi.
I have ridden my bike in so many biking events - century rides, biking clubs, etc. And I have been to the bike shop numerous times. No luck there - the guys who ride bikes are so so rude - they just want to race each other and it is often dangerous.
Also, being a triathlete, I am exposed to all sorts of clubs, training groups and events for swimming, biking, running and triathloning. Still no luck. But lots of fun and friends and a great bod in the process so I am happy with that!
I am living my life for me and am waiting for the guy who is "that into me" to appear. Of course the only challenge there is that you have to be attracted to him.
Patience...........
It was posted in the internet while I was reading an article. I thought it was hilarious. No, I never had the luck of even making eye contact at any of those places, but then again, I was hanging out with my friends. Someone asked where we can meet men a few days back and I thought this was kind of a funny article to the question.
On the one hand, of course, West, Candi and I, have been going through the dating scene for awhile, so we are over the intial, I HAVE TO HAVE A DATE. But their are still those ladies we don't want to forget that haven't reached that point in their lives yet. Or they are at the point where they would like to meet someone again. Anyone.
Of course it's not healthy, but it's a dating board. LOL!
100%! What is it with these men and no rings?? Their aren't that many reasons a man shouldn't wear one and the excuse of it getting in the way (unless he is a mechanic, gynecologist (LOL)) or that he doesn't like wearing jewelery is REALLY LAME.
Anyone know of some really whopper excuses, why some marrieds don't wear rings that we can't forgive? Or excuses we can forgive?
My X never wore his ring, but he got angry when I didn't(I did that once for a week to prove my point). The second time around my man WILL wear it, or I won't.
Oh but I DO want to find a companion, I do want to date...it would be FUN! And of course I notice men who I find attractive. There are men that I would say yes to in a heartbeat if they asked.
I just think a lot of the advice is strange. Like the reason you haven't found someone is you haven't been doing the right things. I think in most cases, for me, it was only because I haven't hit the right combination.
that is a real problem. Things aren't so easy to figure out now as they used to be.
You can't even tell by the way a man reacts to you. Married men have hit on me at the gym...it's just icky.
Your ideas are appreciated, Catherine. I am sorry if I sounded like I disapproved. It is just that I have come to grips with the fact that it takes time to meet a quality person.
And yes - what MB says is so true - the age 32-40 group is mostly married - and it is hard to tell because many married men don't wear a ring.
I do want a companion and date. But I want to meet a person who is right for me and has potential to go further. That is the hard part.
I have been through the internet dating - I call it the cattle process - where you email and talk to and go out with so many men. I am just tired of that. I could not bear another blind date. Just can't. I even tried to go back on match.com and eharmony.com and after a week or two I just couldn't do it. The men on there in my age group all have something I can't stand - like travelling all the time for work, smoking, riding a motorcycyle, wanting to travel all the time with their SO, not stable, ugly, out of shape.
BUT it is not all gloomy. I have some young friends who do fun things and I am expanding my activities and social circle. I have added another coach who gives me an email training plan and he has fun group activities. I am going to go to a reggae concert with a friend. I am riding my bike all over the place here. I am looking cute at my gym and everywhere I go. I am doing all I can to be happy and be me and get out.
Something will stick!! :-)
Hi Sweetie! I know you don't disapprove.
Like me, you've come to grips with it all. I still have one site, the one I am recommending to you now, but that's because I get most of my penpals off that site. I am just not dating anyone that could be available here. I think it's because I just don't feel like dating right now. I am more comfortable just being at home and doing my own thing and no relationship hassle. I also am curious to see where this new kinda sorta, who knows relationship with my penpal and friend are going to take me. At the moment it works for me, because I like being by myself, but still writing and talking on the phone is about all I can take after 4yrs of dating continously. Meeting new men, going through the same steps and again being disappointed.
I do have a suggestion though. Stay away from the normal internet sites and try this one: Militaryfriends.com
It's cheap and they usually have good looking men that are in shape. It mainly a military singles site, but their are those that have other jobs. It's different then most sites. You should at least check it out. I thought what the heck? 10 dollars for 4 wks? Sure! I can handle that. Is it the thing for me? NO. I don't think so. I get so tired of going through all the blind dates and everything that you've experienced, but at the same time, the men here (in the flesh) are God awful! Just awful and married, and no sense of humor and awful. No exercise, drink to much. Ok, so, I smoke, but not like a chimney, most europeans still do, but I think once I hit the states that will end. Anyway, I just thought you might try it for the heck of it. Their is nothing to lose, except maybe a good man. LOL
- Catherine