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| Tue, 01-25-2005 - 10:13am |
So yesterday I was home with my son Jacob who had a fever and sick with a cold. In the afternoon Justin arrived home and came to me with a huge smile on his face saying "Mom guess what I did?" I said "what...what did you do??!!" "I pretended to be Jacob all day mom" I was in shock. You hear of these stories of twins doing this I just never thought it would happen - maybe when they were older but they are 9! Justin even told me that the 2 of them conspired to do this that morning and he was actually upset with Jacob because he didnt tell him he had a spelling test!
So now I am posed with this problem that they thought it was the funniest thing to do. Today will be a challenge for both of them I am sure now that they are back to school. I have thought about turning them in. They are brand new to this school...this is their 3rd week. So they are still in process of making freinds and getting adjusted.
But gosh darn what they did is soooo outragious!! I just cant believe it!!
Unique ideas on punishments for THIS one?? Donna you said your twins are fraternal but perhaps you being a mom of twins have some insight....geesh...I just cant believe it LOL - and I shouldnt laugh.
:) MB
Edited 1/25/2005 10:13 am ET ET by mbfun

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That is so cute and so special for twins. I don't think you should punish him. Praise him for telling you the truth and then tell them not to do that again. Discuss the importance of honesty and integrity and character. Explain how those virtues are the sum of all your days and actions.
You have to give them credit for their creativity!! I think you have to enjoy them and not sweat the small stuff.
Just my two cents worth. You must have your hands full with twins!!
ROTFLMAO!!!!!
I LOVED this.
Sorry, Mary Beth. I've got nothing for you. But I think it's hilarious.
I grew up with some girls who pulled stunts like this all the time until they got older and their differences FINALLY showed (they were not identical twins, but looked about as much alike as you can get w/OUT being identical)
The only thing I can do, is agree with Judy on talking to them.
I agree with west. Maybe they just wanted to know they could do it. I think if you punish them then next time they will do it and just not tell you. This might be a good time to talk about what they do in life is their choice, and you might not always agree with it but there are consequences they are the one's that will have to live with them (for example, your brother pretending to be you and doing poorly on a spelling test is a consequence, and guilt from getting credit if he does well is also a consequence).
Tell them why you don't want them to do it again, give them some convincing reasons like pride in your OWN work and not taking credit you don't deserve, and explain that those types of things build character and respect and are valuable traits, while cheating and lying are not. What is important is that they know they can get away with it, but they need some real solid reasons to *choose* not to do it again. If they can say "I won't do it again because I want to respect myself and I want my mother's respect" that is better than saying "I won't do it again because I will be punished" because they know the chance they will get caught is small, and if they won't be caught, there won't be any punishment. Ask them directly if they can come up with their own reasons why pretending to be each other is not so good of an idea. It's a lot harder to avoid your own internal compass than it is to avoid getting grounded. So in this case I think some guidance will do a lot more than some punishment - and also give them a lot of credit for telling you, because no matter who they want to deceive out in the world, you want to encourage them to be honest with you.
Edited 1/25/2005 11:37 am ET ET by firstamendment
I know what his punishment will be!
He has to do the work he missed in HIS class now.
Thanks!
I did actually place that rule to Justin that tonight he has to do double to homework!!
I also failed to mention in my first post that this morning I told them that I think the best thing to do would be to turn themselves in epecially because Justin mentioned he has bragged to his freinds about doing this. So we shall see what happens with that. No calls yet. If nothing comes of it I will let it go as far as the school...but there will be talks about not doing this again with me. I just think about if they did this in high school and got caught-- oh the consequences with the school would be pretty severe!
I also was concerned that no one questioned it...or maybe they did and just felt that I made a mistake or the secretary at the school. Who knows. People get them confused all the time.
(still shaking my head at this one)
:)MB
MB
I just wanted to say I wonder if you think it's because they're in the new school that they did this. Trying to create an identity for themselves in the school? It's so hard to be in a new school as it is, I bet it's really hard for twins when they get confused and such.
I think the double homework punishment is perfect!
Hugs
Tara
THEY HAVE BEEN CAUGHT!!!
Both the boys are in special education and the special ed teacher just called me to ask me what was going on. I had to confess for them. She is going to talk to both of their teachers. So I will keep y'all informed what they say/do...
MB:
Sorry to respond so late. I've been swamped today. It's 3:00 p.m. here and I'm eating my lunch as I type this. This is the funniest thing I ever heard. I couldn't stop laughing after I read your post. I think they just wanted to see if they could pull it off. I wouldn't punish them too hard, the homework thing is a good idea.
Twins have a bond that I don't think anyone but themselves will ever understand. My twins are boy/girl, so no, they could never pull off a switch. But, they have always "ganged up on poor mom". Just last week, I was quizzing Katie on her spelling words at the kitchen table, and Alex was doing his homework at the other end of the table. She was getting them all right, then I realized that he was mouthing her the answers! And ever since they were little, they stick up for each other to the death. They can beat the crap out of each other, but God forbid if someone else tries to hurt the other one. When they were in daycare, whenever Katie would get in trouble and be in time out, Alex would cry (not Katie) because she was in time out. And he would always say to me when I reprimanded her, "You leave my sissy alone". I pity the poor guy who ever tries to date Katie. He'll have to go through Alex first!
I've always tried to tell them how special being a twin is. I think we have to celebrate all their unique characteristics and just enjoy their specialness. You really got to give them an A+ for effort on the switch. That was real creative! I'm still laughing.
Keep me posted. I can always use a good laugh.
Donna
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