Oh My..... :)

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Oh My..... :)
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Mon, 07-11-2005 - 7:53pm

Okay...first of all, I haven't been on this board in a while. I decided a couple of months ago to give my ex husband another shot. Needless to say, it didn't work out and the situation with him is even worse than before.

Anyways....

I have met the most sweetest person in the entire world!! Actually, I've known him for about six years. I went out with a bunch of my married friends a couple of weeks ago and he was there too (he's divorced). Little did I know that my best friend was trying to set us up that night and that's how we ended up talking and stuff.

I'm just on cloud nine! This really feels right, especially since I've known him already for so long. He's been around my daughter before, so there's really no problem with that. He's really good with her and she likes him too!

I've known his family forever too. His mother is really nice and I'm really good friends with his sister. I'm also singing in his brother's wedding next month.

I'm really really trying to take this new relationship one day at a time, but it's all I can do not to call him and want to see him every day! I just want to sit back and enjoy this stage, you know!?

Anyways...just wanted to share my thoughts....especially since they're not sad for a change!

Thanks for listening,
Kait

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: kaitlyn02
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 10:51pm

Good news and good going! That sounds very good to me.

Keep us posted when you can!

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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: kaitlyn02
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 11:08pm

Kait,

You just ended another round with your ex husband, and you were dating someone else back in May- maybe you should take a break and reconnect with you.

I just worry that you're going to be constantly in the "dating/ relationship" mode that you're not going to build on you as a person, and you will just constantly be half of a couple. So just make sure that you're getting out and doing other things than just looking for the next guy to fill up your time.

Alison

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In reply to: kaitlyn02
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 1:36am

I agree with you Alison and thanks for the advise. But I truly have to believe that this is different, for the most part. The previous people that I dated were either blind dates/set ups or just plain ole duds... I've known this guy for a good while so there's really nothing to "completely" figure out about him, so to speak....lol...I guess. (You always learn new things about people every day.)

Yes, I did go through another round with my ex husband, only to fully recognize how seriously bad he is to me. Maybe it took that to get where I want or need to be. I have opened my eyes and know now that no matter what, I don't need to be back in the abusive relationship with my ex. I deserve so much better than that whether I'm with someone new or not. If this new guy decided that he didn't want to see me anymore, while it would probably hurt, it wouldn't be the end of my world. I just realize that there are good men out there that aren't going to be mean and abusive to me. So, I'm just going to have fun with this new relationship, see where it goes, and just take it one day at a time.

:)
Kait

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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: kaitlyn02
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 6:43am

Glad you seem to have found someone that appreciates you. However, make sure you make plenty of time for yourself. Keep us updated.

- Catherine

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In reply to: kaitlyn02
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 10:50am

Do not call the new man. Make him call you in the beginning and set up the dates. Men really do like to pursue. Also, you probably don't need this advise, but do not talk to him about the ex husband and how you recently tried to make a go of it with him again. Guys really, really, really do not want to talk about the exes early in the game.

Good Luck!