Babysitting help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Babysitting help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
| Tue, 07-12-2005 - 7:57pm |
Can someone answer the questions in "off Topics" topic!!!!! About babysitting????? I need help too, so bad. I am going crazy. I am a single mom 24/7 and never get a break. I have been trying to see someone special and we almost never get any time outside of kids, kids, kids and doing stuff with the kids...this is one of the things that went wrong in my marraige: that we had no time to nurture the relationship...HOW do people find the time? My babysitting options are totally exhausted by having to have my kids watched while I go to school or work. I am resenting the situation. Is it too much to ask to be a mom AND a woman? I am so sad and I am going crazy. How do single moms get a chance to be women, to have any privacy OR, god forbid, have a sex life?!????!!!! Please help!!!!!

Hello there,
I think we are all in the same boat on this one. You will just have to look around and find some kids in your neighborhood who are trustworthy and want to make money one evening a week.
It sounds like you are overwhelmed and stressed with your life with working, going to school and being a single mom. That is a full plate for anyone. How long before you finish school?
Maybe you need to focus more on you and the kids instead of a relationship so you will have more time for a relationship later on? Is your SO putting pressure on you? Can you be more creative with time for him after the kids have gone to bed?
Maybe if we hear more about your situation we can help.
You go to school and work. I'm sure you need time to study as well. In a couple of my past relationships, I felt much less stressed after I dumped those guys. It was too much to work, be a mom, and be available for dates with men who could really care less about my son.
I don't know your whole situation.
I TOTALLY know what you are saying! I am also a 24/7 mom. When I move back to the States, I will get NO breaks, nada nothing vs. the nothing now (except once a month).
No darlin, actually, it isn't to much to ask to be with someone you care about. I read it as you are just worn out from kids, school and work. You want to be a woman for a change. I was feeling EXACTLY that some weeks ago. For the first time in 12yrs I had a vacation for myself. All alone and no resposibility, no relationship, just me. It was the best vacation I ever had.
You ONLY want to have a small part of life for yourself only, and you should, because you are young and you deserve to have a little fun; we all are young and we all should deserve it. Most everyone here on the board has fathers that help out, even if its once a month, but I don't for either of my kids. It's not alot asked to have 2-3 hrs ALONE with someone special. I can'T expect my man to CONSTANTLY be a part of my family, when in reality I don't even want that. I want to get away sometimes and enjoy some romance. He obviously understands or he would of left you standing the first week. However, these things can get frustrating for any relationship. My sister and her husband are ALLL about the kids, they do NOTHING without them. Nothing revolves around them, but the kids. She resents me, because I see the world, have dates, have fun, get sex(with or without a relationship, lol) and absolutely love and enjoy my kids, because I go out, take the mom apron off and enjoy my evening. As little as it is, I am happy and content. I balance it. It's hard to balance relationship, work and kids, but you also have school. So darling, you make sure you have definitely sit down and plan a date night for whatever works for you. Maybe only once a month or every 3 weeks, but then you get away from it all. Those kids need your strength and you being wired and strung out (that is how you sound, and I can relate) is going to make you upset and upset with the kids and somewhere resentful. They want a happy mommy, so you need to find a babysitting agency, post it in the paper (seeking a reliable babysitter for my sweet kids), at a college and figure out your days. Make sure you have a LIST of options in case one cancels.
By the way, you just made me answer my own question. LOL.
Your new, so please tell us something about yourself.
Take care,
Catherine
No it's not too much to ask. I can totally understand how frustrated you are...it rings through in your post.
Question: how old are your kids? Do they have friends they can visit after work/school for a few hours or even a sleepover (if you know the parents)?
Do you have a local YMCA in your area? They have lots of programs for kids depending on their age. They even have "parents night out" events sometimes, where moms & dads get to check the kids in for an evening of fun and games, while they go out for some alone time. I love my YMCA. They have financial assistance too.
Use your school job boards to search for a reliable college student to babysit. They usually don't expect a huge income.
I wish you the best. Good luck!