My daughter(5) met my boyfriend today...

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Registered: 03-28-2003
My daughter(5) met my boyfriend today...
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 3:45am

for the first time. She got back from spending the last five and a half months with her dad a week ago. My BF and I started dating I think two weeks after she left.

I had planned to wait a little longer before introducing them, but the cable guy was coming today to install cable modem, and I needed him there incase furniture needed to be moved, or technical speak needed to be translated for me (both of which did).

I introduced him as my friend, and for the time being we are avoiding public displays of affection in front of her. She seemed to take to him right away, as she does with most people that I am close to, and he was very touched that she drew a picture for him. He had just shaved his head a few days ago, and she touched his head and said he had "tiny little hair" and he read her a book while we waited for the cable guy to show up. After we got everything hooked up and running, we all walked to the park and she played with him alot. On the walk home she asked him if she could ride on his shoulders, and he carried her a few blocks. She hugged him when he had to go home.

When I talked to him after he got home and I'd put her to bed he said he liked her alot, but that he was scared because he's never really dealt with kids before, and I told him he did great and that she really had fun today and seemed to like him alot. On one hand I'm a little worried that she's getting attached to him too fast, but ont he other hand, I know he's going to be around for a while, so I guess I shouldn't really worry about it so much.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 6:38am
Wonderful!! I am glad you shared your story. Please keep us posted!!
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:37am
That is a lot like how it went with my dd and my x-bf. My only advice is to not go full blast into having him in her life all the time just because it went so well the first time. My dd saw my x-bf about once a week when she was with me, and that was enough for them to get to know each other without becoming overly attached to him. She definitely liked him and missed him some when he wasn't there, but he wasn't part of our daily lives so that kept her from getting really attached. I think you bf needs to be able to ease into this as well, and short or less frequent visits will help him build some confidence around her without feeling overwhelmed.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 3:27pm
Yeah, we aren't planning to get together again until next week, and I'd like to keep it this way for a while. I don't want him to be around constantly just yet. I have plenty of opportunities to see him on my own when she spends the night with her grandpa on weekends.