Has anyone tried "Speed Dating"?

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Registered: 07-31-2005
Has anyone tried "Speed Dating"?
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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:48pm

I have seen some of you mention online dating but has anyone tried the "speed dating"? Today in the local newspaper there was an article about it coming next month. I am considering it, but would really like some opinions on it. It sounds like it is well organized and that your private information will not be shared unless you choose to do so. Please any info on this type of dating would be appreciated.

Thanks

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Registered: 08-04-2005
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 3:13am

Did you see the movie "The Date Doctor"? Their is a part in it, where I think they do speed dating. It looked sooo sad and demeaning. Internet dating is also depressing in my book, but it's not as bad as some of the other wierd options you have to meet people. I'm still way to traditional. I rather try to meet a guy between the

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 5:06am

My friends and I tried it once.

PROS:
-You get to get dressed up and go out for a night.
-You talk to different men quickly in one evening.
-You get comfortable talking to many people and learn to strike up a conversation easily.
-You gain confidence in yourself to talk to single guys.
-You never know who you might meet.

CONS:
-The quality of men is no different from online in my opinion and I was disappointed by who showed up that evening - an obnoxious guy from NY who wanted a much younger woman who did not have or want children, a guy who was 47 and never married, a guy who couldn't find a job and was hoping to find one that way!!, a man who was newly divorced and new to town but not planning on staying in town ....
-It is not cheap enough to do it all the time.
-It is not a natural way to meet someone - I don't think I would meet someone this way. The fast talking felt more like job interviewing than how a romance naturally develops.

Would not do it again.

I really feel that a quality guy would NOT sign up for something like this. There are just too many women looking for a guy and guys have so many choices and ones that are good do not need to sign up for something like this.

I also don't like to be "stuffed into a box" with my statistics so to speak. I look very young for my age and would be willing to have a child again. I am also very active. So the age range of a guy signed up for speed dating and looking for me would tend to be older; he would not want more children and my chances are not good he would be in shape.

I believe it is best to have a lot of interests and friends and to meet someone IRL (in real life) - but maybe that is because I have a lot of interests and activities. I realize that not everyone is that fortunate and maybe the more traditional chanels are good for them. Additionally I think if you are younger than 35 it could be good as well - my age 43 is just a challenge because there are fewer men available.

Hope this helps!!

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Registered: 07-20-2005
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 8:20pm

I've been and I have mixed feelings on it. It was very well organized. I do like the fact that my info was not given out without my permission. I wouldn't completely rule out meeting someone that way, because a couple of the guys seemed to have it together. But... I didn't feel like you really got to talk to anyone long enough to see if you actually liked them or not. Everyone was very nervous at first, which probably tainted the first few people you talked with. Half of the ten guys I spoke with were not people I would have considered dating no matter how I met them.

What it all boils down to, IMHO, the problem is that if you go places (online or IRL) to meet men who are looking to meet women, you find the ones you don't want to meet. LOL

Kelly