I am finally gonna do it!
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| Fri, 08-05-2005 - 2:55pm |
hi all. i have posted here a few times in the past about my angst over my SO. he has a very hectic schedule between his work, his kids, and his ongoing battles with his X. Well, I have finally decided to end the relationship. He is a great guy and all that i ever wanted, he just does not have the time to commit to a relationship. I have been analyzing the situation for so long now and the bottom line is that i am unhappy. I don't want to walk away from something b/c the timing is wrong, but I feel like I have to. I just spend too much of my time waiting and wanting and i don't think that is healthy.
i am pretty sad about the whole thing though. i just know that it is for the best. i have never had to do something like this though. with my XH, the love was gone long before the relationship ended. this is a whole new feeling for me.
i am trying to have faith that the right man will come along for me and my kids.
thanks for listening and for all of your great advice before.
steph

I think you are doing the right thing, Steph. I do understand exactly how you feel because I have experienced this in the past. It is very frustrating to really want something and want to be with someone and not get back nearly enough of what you need.
You are smart and brave to see it. And by taking this step you will ensure the right person comes along at the right time.
Keep us posted - we care and are here for you.
I agree too! as a single mom you need to look out for your kids as well. Maybe after some time he'll come around and you must then tell him what your looking for in the relationship and if he does care he will be willing to work with you.
Remember ex's will always be around so you need to find a way to deal with it, or you'll go crazy. I would just move on with your life and if he comes around and things can change for both of you then go with it and go slow.
Good Luck girlfriend, I'm with you on this one!
Lou
Good Luck!!
I am new so don't know all the history, but what you have said sounds like your doing what is best for you and your kids which is all you can do..