OMG How Awkward Is This???

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Registered: 08-31-2006
OMG How Awkward Is This???
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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 1:06pm
I am new to these boards...hoping that an outside opinion will help!! I am a single mom (24 yo), with a 5 yr old son. He takes martial arts at a large academy, with about 7-8 instructors for each class. One of the (newer) instructors started to pay some extra attention to him during class about two months ago, and then started to pay some extra attention to ME. He's totally respectful, so nothing wierd or anything...but I catch him staring at me all the time. He is GORGEOUS and totally my type, seems pretty shy though. I would love to ask him out for a drink...except for 2 problems. 1) He's my kid's teacher in a way...but one of many, and it's not like an actual school teacher or anything. We go to the dojan (school) 2-3x a week for an hour, and if anything did develop I would not make my son aware of it. And, 2) we're never alone!! Friends of mine have come with me, and said that they are sure that he's interested in me, but they don't know how we could actually hook up without a minute of privacy to make that initial contact. It has been suggested that I just pass him my #, but that seems so...well...not me. I have no problem asking him out, just not in front of his students/coworkers. Any suggestions? Is this totally wrong to begin with? Thank you!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 1:23pm

You have to wait and be patient for him to make a move. I believe that if he is interested he will be on a mission. Maybe he is trying to get up the courage? Or maybe he is just admiring you physically and has a reason he is not asking you out or for more interaction? I always believe in patience.

Now, if there is a way for you to talk to him by yourself that is okay - but I would not give him my number unless he asks.

The more time that goes by is the more fun and suspenseful it gets. Think of the positive!!

Keep us posted!! I am sure the others will chime in with their opinions and then you can decide which one or more is best for you. That is just my .02 worth :-)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 2:25pm

I agree with Judy that you should wait.


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