Crossed the ol' "sex thresh hold" last

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Crossed the ol' "sex thresh hold" last
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 5:34pm
nite with Carlos (ealier post this week about him, 45,

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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 10:19pm

Woo hoo! You GO girl!!!



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Sun, 10-15-2006 - 1:32pm

Glad you had a great time! And I'm glad he didn't end up being a really nice guy who was a dud in bed! Now he really sounds like he is getting to be a great catch. (not that sex is everything, but it sure does MATTER). ;-)

Even better is that your friends aren't seeing any warning signs that you're missing- and they see him as a nice guy too. Just keep on going slow (no jumping into any huge commitments until you're sure- like I need to warn you of THAT) and having fun... and make sure he knows you are not dating him exclusively- because if he's a nice guy- that's something that might matter to him and you don't want to end up breaking his heart because of miscommunication. It's just that I've been on the receiving end of dating deception/wrong assumptions and it's not fun. Just be open and honest and TALK- and hopefully he will do the same (and let you know how serious he is or is not, that kind of thing.)

I can totally understand your thoughts on wishing you might've met him next year, after you've had some time to have some "wild oats" fun... but if he really likes you and you really like him- then I think it would all work out anyway. Enjoy being with someone NICE for a change!!

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 9:52am

Congratulations, Rebecca.

Sounds like you are having fun and having a great attitude. We are totally on the same page... (I need your number so we can chat more... lol.) I'll post my date scoops in another thread and you'll know what I mean...lol.

I can also relate to the NICE thing. I'm all about NICE after seperating from a jerk (to say the least) exhusband. BTW, in case you haven't checked the other boards... YES, I am DIVORCED!! Wooo Hoooo.

But back to the nice thing.... I used to be attracted to arrogant jerks for some reason, but now (even though I'm still attracted) I find myself steering clear of that type and going more for the NICE guy. I'm thankful that I can now see the difference between confident and cocky. Carlos does sound nice. Way to go, girl.

Love,
Loonybunny

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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 3:39pm
Eternal bachelors are fun for a while.
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 8:05pm

Hey Rebecca - wow - you certainly are not at a loss for getting out and having hot dates. :-)

As long as everything stays on your terms I think that is good/okay. I don't know if I could be good at the casual sex approach - I tried that and then ended up horribly attached - and sad when he went back with his exwife. But may are not so attachy as me - so it is about what you want - as long as it works for you.

I think this time is good because you are exploring what you want and you are getting valuable dating experience and not settling until you are sure.

Keep us posted!!