I have this friend....
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| Wed, 11-08-2006 - 9:26pm |
...I love her dearly. Since she has been married, she has morphed into this strange stepford kind of wife. Tonight I was talking to her about finding a new job, she was telling me about the company she used to work for and how great it is. I said "It does sound great, I think I'll call tomorrow and try to get an interview set up." She said "Well, you should really talk to my husband before you do because when it comes to job interviews, women just don't know what they are doing. You should talk to him and he can tell you about the politics involved in getting a job. Women just don't understand the politics involved." (I should mention I've been friends with her husband since college, and friends with her for many years both before and after they married). I had no idea what to say to that, so I said maybe I would call him tomorrow to get some interview pointers. I'm confused because before they married, she was a successful, professional woman, very strong and independant. It's been only in the last couple of years that she has started changing. What in the world is going on over there? Is he brainwashing her? Is she brainwashing herself? I feel I know her husband well enough to know that's not the kind of thing he would say, but maybe I am way off base. I guess I don't really have a question, I am just baffled. I wonder what she thinks of me? Is she amazed that I can function in society without a man by my side? Or does she feel sorry for me b/c I'm some poor lost woman with no man to guide me?
Anyone else have weird 50's throwback friends? I love her to death, and love to be around her, then she busts out with one of those comments and I am stunned...it's so weird!!
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Maybe she really admires his way of thinking? The good thing is that you can call him for advice - tell us what you think?
Some women are happy to be this way - and it is okay when the husband is smart and kind. To each his own.
As to your question, I don't think she judges you or even has a clue about the tremendous load you have to support yourself and kids and make it in this world. All that matters is that YOU do!!
And that is why we do have this board - because no one else but us single moms understands what it is like. I am thankful everyday that I log on because I truly enjoy reading all of the posts and relating to what is said. I always learn a lot here.