Emails turned into phone conversation...

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Emails turned into phone conversation...
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:19am

Hi All,

I exchanged phone numbers with the marine I met online. He called me up Fri afternoon, but DUH my phone was low on batteries. He left a very impressive voice message... even asked me out for THAT NIGHT. So I called him back. We had a pleasant conversation... enough for me to say to self "i should meet him in person". BUT I was plenty busy for this past weekend and couldn't agree to anything. Was that a good thing?? In keeping with some of our conversations of not being too available. But it was truthful and not a strategy.

So, I told him that I already made plans with my brother because it's his birthday. Told him I was treating him to dinner and then pool afterwards. The marine says "maybe call me up after dinner and I can shoot some pool with you all." BUT he said he doesn't drink. I hope I said maybe and not definately because I didn't call him back. I thought about it BUT, like I said, my phone battery was low so I left it home on the charger.

Then he said, how about Sat. But I told him Saturday I was taking the children to see the holiday lights. I thought about calling him on Sunday but my children kept me busy all weekend. I didn't get a quiet moment. So, I'll try him today (or tomorrow) and take him up on his offer for a cup of coffee. In our phone conversation Friday, he made several suggestions of what we could do for fun.

But now, I'm nervous about meeting him. AND I'm thinking, IF we hit it off, it's not like we could go out often because of my children and the expence for a babysitter. Maybe it was because he made so many suggestions about when/how we could meet... it made me feel like he wanted so much of my time.. But maybe he was just giving me options. Don't know. What do you guys think?? Also I worry that I gave him a bad impression because I had to say no. Well, I guess either he respect the fact that I was already busy or he didn't. I guess I didn't want to give him a sense that I'm not interested.

Opinions apreciated. I AM intersted. He's 40. He's a marine. Part of me is thinking way too far ahead on this one.... STOP THE INSANITY... lol.. I haven't even met him. LOL.

Loonybunny

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:23am

I think it is okay that you were busy and already had plans. You have your family priorities in order.

What has your communication been up to this point? Have you emailed each other a lot and discovered things in common?

Has he seen your picture?

How far is he from you?

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:44am

Yes, he's seen my picture. He found me on myspace.

In our one phone conversation we found out we both have a similar goofy sense of humor. And he said, "we are compatible intellectually." Not really sure what he means by that but that seemed like a good thing.

We haven't emailed each other too much, but I've seen his myspace and didn't see any red flags or turn offs. BUT only one of his photos showed his face upclose. And that's one of the reasons I hate meeting people online... you can never really tell what they look like from there photo. In the past, I've gotten so excited about someone only to be really disappointed upon meeting them.

And he lives in the same tricity area so he's probably less than 20 miles.

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:52am

That is very good indeed.

I would try to get together with him soon for coffee. Don't think too much ahead. If he is right then he will adapt to your schedule and obligations - it is just the right thing to do with family.

Keep us posted.

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:48pm
Does he have kids?
Stephanie
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:50pm
Sorry, my question posted twice!



Edited 12/5/2006 9:59 am ET by texas_mom1991
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 4:23pm

Whoo. Deep breaths! Maybe coffee isn't what you need ;-) Just picking, but slow down a little!
It's only coffe, not a commitment to marry the guy! If you don't like him, you've learned something new- that this guy isn't right for you. If you do like him, you've spent a pleasant hour (about) with someone new. It still isn't a big deal. Yet.
Relax, and enjoy yourself.

Moody- working up the nerve to try something new, and big


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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:35pm
lol at the Insanity!!!!!!!!!!!

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 12:10pm

On his myspace profile it says he is "undecided" about wanting kids. So I guess that means he does not have children of his own. And it doesn't indicate if he was ever married before.....it just says "single". That's not first date conversation material, so I guess it will be a bit before I find out if he's a 40-yr-old-never-married-confirmed-bachelor. lol

I forgot my cellphone at home today...duh. I'm such a scatterbrain these days. So, I left him a quick email about getting together for coffee. I'll be sure to spill the details ...

;-)

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 12:31pm
One of my ex boyfriends is a High School friend who was a 20 plus year career Marine. He has never married or has kids. So, I can't wait to hear an update!
Stephanie
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 1:04pm

Just my 2 cents here, but my brother was a long time military career man and I dated several of them myself. Procede with caution a lot of them-not all of them have that slam, bam thank you maam mentality. They are just loooking for quick hook ups and quick sex. They avoid getting really close to anybody, they have a very emotionally detached demenor. A lot of cops are like this too because of the type of stress they face on the job.

He may be nothing like this, but I would be on the look out for it. As this may not be your cup of tea.

Sometimes these guys are extremely lonely and just need a friend, and that's allright too, as I befriended many a military man, but just be honest about your true intentions was the way I dealt with them.

The T Girl