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| Fri, 12-08-2006 - 7:59pm |
Alrighty, i am totally new to all this, but i have to talk. I did the online dating thing for a while and had met a few different guys. One of them had come to visit me at my parents place for a couple days. Though we didn't really hit it off, we continued to talk. Then i met Keith...and i fell in love. He is from my home town and i am totally head over heals with him. My dad has known him for years and just thinks he is great and mom totally adores him.
Now comes the kick. 4 days ago the guy that had come here for a couple days started calling me after he got the message that i was seeing someone. He told me that my new boyfriend may as well give up cuz he ain't gonna keep me....well, i took it with a grain of salt. Over the next 2 days he called approx 24 times...the last 4 telling me he was on his way to my house and i had better be ready. Well, i decided it was time to tell my boyfriend....and the police. Things stopped with the other guy when the police called him and i changed my phone number.
However, my boyfriend has pulled back. He still comes to see me and holds my hand and that, but he is different. Prior to this we never shut up and now it seems we hardly talk. We had such passion in our kisses, but after this it is just the quick little kisses.
I am dying inside as we promised never to hide anything from each other, but now i wish i had hid this from him. The thing that confuses me is that this guy was in my life and really out of it before i even met Keith face to face. So why is he all funked out about this? I wish i knew. Anyway, did i screw up? Should i have broken my promise and kept this from him? Or did i do the right thing by telling him what was going on?

I don't think you could have hid that one even if you wanted to.
You can't control your bf's reaction. But perhaps it is a true indication of his inability to cope with difficult circumstances in life? Perhaps he has only a simple question that needs answered?
The only way you will know this is to bring up the way you feel in a heart to heart conversation. I would do that sooner rather than later.
Good luck and keep us posted!
(edited to fix some major typos!)
Edited 12/9/2006 1:57 pm ET by cl-west1745
So a whole lot of prayer and thought and listening to God got the results. I thank you for listening to me. It really helped last night to vent this out as i was also able to think clearly and pray.