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| Sat, 12-09-2006 - 8:57am |
Hi Folks!
I'm a single mom with a 7 yo son. I am in my late 30's.
I bought a home on a tiny street in a tiny town last March.
In May, just as I was beginning to date a man, a handsome neighbor started showing up with small indications of interest. He is a photographer, asked to take some pics of me in the graveyard near our house for an art project (they were not naughty photos...more sentimental in tone and I had a conservative dress on in them as he requested.) And he qould come by and chat every few days. The other relationship took up steam and the neighbor disappeared for the most part over the summer. That relationship lasted until September and the neighbor has been stopping by more and more. Made us dinner, took us out for ice cream, spends a LOT of time with us, almost every other day up to 5 hours at a time. He's warm friendly and sweet. PLays fine with my son, but focuses conversation with me. He wants to go Christmas tree shopping with us tomorrow. Wants to give me a chair that matches my antique couch...etc.
He hasn't made a move. It has been about 2 months since he has been spending much time with us. Would a man spend so much time just to be friends? Might he want something more?
Thanks :)

Hi and welcome!!
With regards to your story and question, that is such a tough one to decide. On one hand he seems SUPER nice and sweet but on the other you don't want to spend so much time and get attached if he only wants to be a helpful neighbor.
If it was me in your shoes, I would be willing to wait and see. I might put a sparkle in the way I dress, or be a little less available hoping it would push him to want more. But you really can't MAKE him want more if he doesn't. And at this point you have to assume he wants to be a helpful friend because he hasn't done anything else.
If it goes months with no date/romantic intentions, I might want to draw back a little and NOT allow him so much time and interest. Because it is not fair to you to get attached and give up so much of your time if you don't have that.
Will see what the others say.