Pac Sun? How are things with B.E.?

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Pac Sun? How are things with B.E.?
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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 7:52am
Thinking about you lately!

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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 10:42am

GOOD QUESTION! Better bump this up to the top again. :)

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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 2:56pm

Thanks for asking Rebecca! I did not see this post- thanks for bumping it up, Cat.


A quickie update :o)


I would say things are going well.

~Pacific~
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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 4:50pm

Wow Pacsun, a lesson for us all in how we "do" relationships - not only with our significant other but with ourselves.


Mark who is wondering what would BlueEyes think about those voices in your head...

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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 7:00pm

Thanks, Mark :o)


He would probably think it's psycho to have such "supportive vioces" in my head but hey...I never said I was normal, lol!

~Pacific~
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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 8:43pm

That's great, Pac-Sun! I think it's a huge step for you- that you can separate from him (in the right ways- making HIM responsible for HIM) yet staying together with him, and working on the relationship together. It's definitely a good direction!


You sound so much more relaxed about the status of everything, too. Can't beat that. Having peace with yourself,

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 11:17pm

You know the whole Alanon thing is to DETACH from the alcoholics behavior/drinking .... & often you see good things.


It sounds like thats whats going on here! I hope things continue! YEY!

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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 3:09am

It was great to read this positive update, Pacific. I am very happy to see you feeling so good, and working things through with Blue Eyes. It was worth the time you have taken to get through the issue(s) and not just to give up when the going got tough.


Hugs to you.


Clem xx

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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 12:04pm

Thanks everyone :o)


We found out last night Blue Eye's daughter is moving to Vegas, a very last minute thing- this weekend through Tuesday. BE wanted me to go but I can't get the time off of work, plus my ex is working nights and can't keep DD for those days. So BE will go without me. I thank god for finding that new key to keeping myself busy- otherwise I would over think about things. Broom Hazel, being his daughters best bud, is most likely going

~Pacific~
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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 12:29pm

I find your update so POSITIVE and UPLIFTING! I'm so happy that you are doing so well with your relationship with Blue Eyes, but also the relationship with yourself! Finding that inner empowerment, staying firm, being grounded with what and what not will work for you. I can see how your changing would change him. I think he is starting to feel a little shaky and ungrounded because he see's you are serious about your boundaries and needs. Therefore, because he loves you so much, he also has re-evaluated how stupid he would be to let you slip out of your hands.


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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 12:43pm

Thanks, Cat! Those are kind words :o)


Now that I found what works- I will keep that in focus, and especially in times of uncertainty. I thank you and everyone here for allowing me to sort out the issues

~Pacific~

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