Is this rude or am I just a drama queen?
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Is this rude or am I just a drama queen?
| Sat, 03-08-2008 - 2:15pm |
For your BF of 2 years to be talking and joking around with his buddies about his ex GF's and the stuff that happened to them on the trips he took them on?

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Marshall Rosenberg's Non-Violent Communication process talks about for every negative feeling there is an unmet need. So it sounds like your feeling of anger or annoyance comes from an unmet needs of respect, appreciation, and the need to be seen.
Rosenberg talks about there does not have to be one way, one strategy to satisfy the unmet need.
Does that make sense and fit where you are at? Do you feel you need more respect or appreciation in general from your BF? Are you not getting that in other areas in your relationship? I suspect that if you are getting that then this particular area would not bother you.
Mark
Oh wow - this is not a good thought to come back from your vacation. Sorry!! I would tell him that you feel ___ when he does ___.
I guess you have to decide if he was just joking around with his friends - or really oblivious as to the way it made you feel. Maybe both? Or maybe you are so special he can joke that way? From what you have posted before, I thought things we going okay for you guys.
Look at it more like he's just relating the stories of his life and not focus on the fact that there were his ex gf's in them...
Now he can tell the next one about me - LOL!!!!!!!
I say stuff like that to him when he starts talking about ex GF's.
We can take whatever meaning people say. It is up to us to interpret it as we wish and to choose how we want to feel about it. It is taking care of our own needs and feelings.
Mark
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