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| Sun, 03-09-2008 - 3:38pm |
Ok... so it's hard to explain how it was. Very different in a very good way....
So I called him later in the afternoon and suggested we meet for a drink first and then decide if we want to go to a dessert place. It just seemed better, because we could sit over a beer and just chat without feeling we had to get up and go anytime soon. So we met in front of the restaurant and he looked A LOT different from his photos. I wouldn't have recognized him. Not a bad different, but kind of a very young, very preppy looking guy. He looked like he was in his early twenties, he had a beard look in his photos that he has since shaved and he just looked like a prep.
Anyway, it took him about 5 minutes to really look at me. LOL. I sensed he extremely nervous, but when he finally did it was fine and the conversation just flowed. We ordered different beers and discussed them and I gave him a 101 beer lesson. It was kind of funny, because the bartendar told him that I really knew my stuff. I replied that

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Well, that all sounds good to me given the circumstances.
If only we could have a crystal ball? right? But see how it all goes over time. And keep us posted!!
I don't have experience with widowers - so cannot really say what to do or not to do. But I think you did everything right and have the right expectations from what you write here. And we are going to get to learn as we go. And that is good!
My father had been sick with prostate cancer for 2 years.
It was really nice to read how you two clicked. I know you mentioned something about it being wierd him seeming ok so soon...I know that when someone is sick the way his wife was you can go through some of the grieving process together.
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