Broom Hilda strikes again

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Broom Hilda strikes again
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 5:06pm

Why can't she just go away? Does anyone have any anti-witch spray? Her presence gives me an unbearable rash.


So the good, positive news first! I could not go with him (Blue Eyes)to Vegas to help his daughter move. It was too short of notice for me to pick up and leave. Blue Eyes surprised me by calling his (fully capable twenty something year old)

~Pacific~

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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 5:16pm

UGH!!!

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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 5:38pm

Thanks Moon.


I can't stress over it because then I am letting her get under my skin- in which case she wins- by having some kind of control. And BE is a grown man capable of making sounds decisions. I just have to keep that faith.


He assures me that he has found "the one" in me and no longer feels he needs to find love anywhere else. I will choose to believe that- and so I trust. This does not make me like Broom Hilda any better though..


See in BE's past he was unfaithful to a long term girl friend...and it was Broom Hilda he was unfaithful with. When I talk to him about that, he says it was not a good thing, but that he had not found the right one, and he was not totally happy- so he strayed.

~Pacific~
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 6:48pm

I wonder why does BE hands onto Broom Hilda as a "friend?"


Out of loyalty?

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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 7:00pm
~Pacific~
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 7:05pm

I don't blame you one bit for not liking her.

I wonder how he would feel if you were talking to a guy you had an affair with on your exh like he did with her? Put the shoe on the other foot and see what he says.

"One would think he gets enough of feeling needed by me- he certainly knows I love him." That is cute PacSun!!

I think he enjoys the attention and thinks he is in control. But I also think that she is like a spigot - allow her to get turned on and she won't turn herself off. A very fine line.

I do think he was very good to say he won't go to the funeral without you. I think he should stop taking her calls and remove himself from the situation - but that is just me - he has to make up his own mind with how to conduct himself. Maybe you two can discuss how you should handle your relationships with members of the opposite sex - what does he expect from you? I remember that he sort of didn't like your going on about the disc golf or the guys who were interested?

I bet in time he will get sick of her calling.

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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 7:16pm

From Wikipedia


Codependence (or codependency) is a popular psychology concept popularized by Twelve-Step program advocates. A "codependent" is loosely defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for persons who depend on him or her. A "codependent" is one side of a relationship between mutually needy people. The dependent, or obviously needy party(s) may have emotional, physical, financial difficulties, or addictions they seemingly are unable to surmount. The "codependent" party exhibits behaviour which controls, makes excuses for, pities, and takes other actions to perpetuate the obviously needy party's condition, because of their desire to be needed and fear of doing anything that would change the relationship.

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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 8:46pm
Ewwww, tell her to get on the broom and fly away, far far away.
 
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 9:21pm

Hi Pac,


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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 11:29pm

Who in their right mind would invite "the other man" to their husbands funeral to be her, what, DATE?!?!? What an insensitive woman--I can't even imagine what could possibly be going through her mind!

April

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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 12:28am

I am *THE* most NON-jealous person I know .... & *I* dont think *I* could take her hanging on. ICK ICK & double ICK!


Good for BE for putting down his foot with not seeing her w/o YOU in their prescence ... BUT, like you would ever agree to BE in her prescence.


I dont want to say make him choose, but to ME, their relationship was dysfunctional & shouldnt mean NEARLY near as much as yours & his does to him - & i just would expect him to break off this "friendship" ... & i use the term lightly. B/c freindship is give & take - & i see her only taking.

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