EH update and more...

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EH update and more...
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Fri, 05-30-2008 - 12:11pm

Hello... got an email from a decent possibility this morning... he's two hour away, but sounded really good in his profile.. he sent me

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Fri, 05-30-2008 - 1:51pm

Hopefully he wants to meet up- keep us posted.


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Fri, 05-30-2008 - 6:53pm

While i agree girls shouldn't be scouting the bar like vultures.. i disagree that i shouldn't approach a guy.. the other guys i mentioned in my original post approached me btw... maybe it sounded like i was a vulture or something.. but no, that one guy wasn't interested..... but i can't assume that means all guys don't like to be approached.. especially after my "classy" questions from last week... if i want to meet a nice guy, i was thinking i needed to be more aggressive.. sometimes only the jerks approach women.. but the nice ones are too shy.. ya just never know... so i will remain open to saying hi to a guy if i'm interested...


and even if he isn't, i still need to feel victorious that i overcame shyness and said hello... cuz i would never have know otherwise.. right....


overall it's a good place.... and i plan to go back... I was happy that i danced.... i still can't take for granted that only a week ago i could barely walk....


my other thought.... is that i really like being in a relationship.. and my last one reminded me of that.... but now that it's over, i have to get back my free spirit attitude.. and enjoy being single.... enjoy meeting people... enjoy flirting.... and not worry about long term stuff..... it's still a one day at a time thing... praise Him.


Loonybunny

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 4:40am

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 11:57am
"if i want to meet a nice guy, i was thinking i needed to be more aggressive..

That hasn't been my experience: just the opposite, in fact.


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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 12:02pm
Not that men are falling all over ME, lol - but in my pretty vast dating experience, even if sometimes i havent listened to what I know ... men dont want an aggressive, pushy woman.

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 5:29pm

Loony,


Dont automatically think its YOU he's avoiding. If you get in the habit of doing that then your self esteem will go down the $&*@er. Theres a million other reasons why he could have walked away and my guess is it was one of those other reasons he walked away. Not because he was avoiding you.


Good luck with EH. Keep us posted.


Laurie

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 6:54pm

That is a good point!! Loony, don't despair! He might not have realized you were coming to talk to him.

I must say, though, that I do agree with the others from my own experience - that men do not like aggressive women - they feel they have something wrong with them and that they devalue themselves. HOWEVER, I think approachable is key - to be approachable - smile - and then let them walk to you!

I think the guys are all looking for a certain "look" - and when the one who is attracted to your look and personality sees you then he will come after you like a bee on honey! It is not a good or bad thing - just a way it is that guys think and see that way thing.

Is this the night that had the contest? What song did you end up singing? How did that go?

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 9:33pm

No this wasn't the contest... that's a week from tomorrow... this was the place where msmsavannah introduced me to downtown... she couldn't make it due to a sitter but i went anyway.... a girl from work met me... she had a great time. she is also new to richmond.


I've met guys both ways... remember Alan... i went up to him.. i was inspired by the movie "Good Will Hunting".....Alaska.. i also went up to him... saying hi is different than chasing... i don't see anything "wrong" with saying hi... as we've read in articles and from guy posts.... that a guy can get a kick out of being approached by