Canned beer guy update

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Canned beer guy update
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Mon, 06-02-2008 - 2:31pm

Well we had a good talk. Apparently he just thought I expected more out of him than he can give me. Which is NOT the case. He said it wasn't about the beer in a can at all that it just worried him that I am going to expect a different type of lifestyle than he can provide. I said WOAH DUDE hold up we are just dating! I am not trying to make you my next ex husband !(insert laughter) He thinks because of the money I make I live some sort of glam lifestyle. He is so mistaken. I spend the majority of my income on private care for Isaac so I do not have to institutionalize him. So I am not rolling in the dough. I have a simple house...simple furnishings and a simple life. So once we got that out of the way I think he calmed down. Well I know he did. We are going out this week. I work some seriously LONG hours this week so a nice out with him will be nice!


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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2007
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 2:50pm

So, are you going out for a couple of 'canned' beers?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 2:51pm

Glad to hear that you got things straightened out!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 3:06pm
My son has autism and is moderate to low functioning but IMPROVING GREATLY! But he does require around the clock care because he wanders off middle of the night to have tea parties with snow white..or what ever and I have a creek behind my house and a total fear of him getting past the fence and drowning. He sleeps 4 hours a day...random times...and can be aggressive and voilent. The insurance pays for a lot but not everything I need for him and not everything he needs so...what they do not cover I pick up myself. And it has been worth EVERY DIME. He is improving greatly with eye contact and speach! He even is finally at 15 POTTY TRAINED WOOOHOOO even at night!! YAYAYAYA. So that is the answer to your question!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 3:18pm

I hope you didnt find my question too nosey, but the institution comment caught my attention.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 3:23pm

Wow - you have had a hard job - but look at what you have done on your own!

Glad to hear you calmed his fears!!

Do you have someone who can come to your house and help you? I don't know how you must manage all of that on your own.

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 3:56pm

Oh I do not mind sharing about my son at all. I do have staff that comes in the house to take care of him and help with his goals and I have staff for respite care which I NEED! trying to work full time...take care of the kids the house..cleaning etc and have me time is TRICKY. The insurance will only pay for 16 hours a week of respite and 4 hours a day of

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 4:47pm
I would definately clean for you if we lived close.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 5:02pm

OMG - you are a saint!! And a very dedicated mom. I cannot imagine what a journey with autism must be like - but no wonder you are celebrating potty training!!!!!

Is he able to attend any sort of classes? Or does most of his therapy and guidance have to be on one one?

Good thing you are a nurse - that must help a lot with knowing how to care for him and what to expect and how to work the system - although it doesn't make the work any less tiring.

How/when did you discover this? They can do a lot now with all of that but it certainly is a hard row to hoe. I don't think nearly enough credit is given to parents who have to deal with this - it is like the work and responsibilty of 10 kids. I am so glad you have some help - but who was in their right mind when they only assigned 16 hours - that is NOT ENOUGH!

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 5:55pm
If I had not been in nursing school it may have been even longer before he was diagnosed. I was learning about it and a light bulb came on! I was like...woah this is my son to a T! It was so hard when he was little..all THREE of my kids were in diapers! Crazy crazy! I battle the insurance company and the state constantly to get more help. So after all the fights and appeals I am so very thankful for the services I do get. He is doing better in school. He does need a lot of ONE ON ONE. But is getting better and more independant which to me is so wonderful to see him improve and he LOVES to read and reads a ton!
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 6:05pm

I really admire your dedication to your son. I really can only imagine how huge your heart is and what a great mom you are.


I'm glad you cleared things up with the date. We'll look forward to updates. Canned Beer Guy might end up being his nick name here unless you come up with something else ;o)

~Pacific~
~Pacific~

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