EH and Men update

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Registered: 03-25-2002
EH and Men update
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 8:16pm

On the one hand it's nice to have a man update but i'm not very excited about any of these ... *sigh*... here's the update anyway...


1) Pierce ~ he sent me an email today asking for my IM chat name etc... i've never chatted online... so i'm not even sure if i'm interested.... his picture is suave and cute but his writings are weird... my cynical side thinks he is a scam artist or something.. am i being paranoid? who thinks i should give this chat thing a try or what?


2) Maryland guy ~ he's also giving off some weird vibes.... after i emailed him about my children, he wanted to know more about them.. he has 4 and i told him i have 5.. he replied.. "one big instant happy family"...YIKES! It's hard to tell if he was joking or seriously moving that fast in his head... then, he asked how my children handled the divorce.... AGAIN with the divorce.... give me a break... I have his number but now i don't want to call him .... hmmmm. He attached a picture of his children to his email... is that normal?


3) Real Estate guy ~ he seems like the best so far... only i don't know what he looks like except for one small photo... We had a pleasant conversation on the phone

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 06-05-2008 - 8:27pm

1) My sister always said - don't start doing anything you don't want to keep doing. Some people love the IM thing - but some don't - why don't you give him your cell phone number if you are indeed comfortable with that. I am with you - I never liked the chat thing either. When I was online it was to meet someone who was close in age and proximity with similar interests and values who wanted an LTR - not to chat or provide entertainment in the evening hours to chaps who were bored and wanted someone to play around with.

2) Maryland guy - whenever they start asking questions like that - at least to me - it means they are not over the divorce - that is what is on their brain so they are filled with it. Your vibes are spot on in my opinion. And you are not looking for an instant family- I would set him straight on that.

3) If I was you I would ask Real Estate guy for an up to date photo that shows his face. That is only fair. The whole OLD thing tends to be spooky for women - and they can be put at ease when they have a clear picture of who they are talking to - that would be a reasonable request. Stick to your feelings. They are good again here.

4)Is RockerGuy a good guy? He does show interest - maybe more information and time is needed - I do hope you go and come back with more details for us!!

I think the meetup group sounds like a great idea if it doesn't put you out and you have the time.

Sounds good - you are rolling along and weeding them out. It is a long and tedious process. But it will pay off - sounds to me like you are on the right track. And you are getting good prospects - just need a good match!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 06-05-2008 - 8:47pm

I think the first rule of dating, whether OLD or meeting in real life, is to listen to your gut.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 06-05-2008 - 9:24pm

"not to fill the night of some bored guy sitting at home in his underwear..."

LOL!! That is a good visual!

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 7:33pm

1) okay so i wrote back to him asking for his number.... told him i didnt' do im chatting...


2) he's still talking about divorce.. now he asked if i still wanted to restore my marriage... He said he likes

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Registered: 12-06-1998
Sat, 06-07-2008 - 8:32am
Oh dear #2 sounds plain weird!!Talking about his divorce AND an instant family! He sounds REALLY confused!

 



Tracy

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 06-10-2008 - 11:57am

following up with these matches....


1) "Pierce" ... haven't heard back since i said i'm not into chatting... NEXT....


2) Maryland Guy - took him a while to get back to me... he said "sorry to step on your toes".... he said he just wanted to make sure i didn't want to reconcile with my ex... i'm thinking duh, if i did why would i be on eharmony.... that was a lame excuse... i'm not feeling like staying in contact.. what is the ettiquette at this point.. not reply... take a week and then send a generic not interested... or what???


3) Real Estate guy has been in touch... he still wants to meet at some point.. he wrote hopefully this week..... due to our work schedules it will either be a lunch date or something on Saturday.. i'll keep you posted.... (i'm starting to get nervous...)


I have two options tonight... my karaoke meetup is meeting at the place i was at last tuesday.. where i met Rocker... and i don't want to run into him again... but i am interested in meeting the group.. turns out the group will be dismantling because the group leader resigned... so this is one of the last times to meet them... OR, i can go to my neighborhood karaoke tonight.. there is a regular good crowd on Tues nights.... for example, Dirk lookalike, Chris and Josh... and the really cute guy who works there..... (not sure if i gave him a nickname yet)... and several other

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Tue, 06-10-2008 - 7:15pm

"my karaoke meetup is meeting at the place i was at last tuesday.. where i met Rocker... and i don't want to run into him again..."


Well... you should not live your life and make decisions based on whether or not he *might* be there.


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