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How to make OLD contact/guys OLD pics
| Sat, 06-14-2008 - 12:03pm |
I have been really frustrated with this OLD stuff.
| Sat, 06-14-2008 - 12:03pm |
I have been really frustrated with this OLD stuff.
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This is what irritates me:
The 38 year old man who wants
and by then, it was too late."
How about the 45 year old guy who wants a
Ugh- I know!
I had 50+ guys hitting on me, or just adding me to their favs list.
I do not get the shirtless pics at all! Do men really think we want to see them shirtless?? Esp if they have a bird chest! WHAT!! Also on POF I get magically added to favorite lists with out the person EVER emailing me or saying Hi or anything...that is so odd...anyone know why guys do this??
I've heard they add you to favs for one of two reasons:
1. they're scrolling through and putting a flag on you to contact you when they have more time or
2. it's like a wink and they add you in the hopes you'll check them out and if you like what you see, you'll message them.
I don't know- I found that some guys would add you to their favs, but if I found I liked their profile and contacted them they didn't seem to really want to get to know me... so that just seemed odd.
I recently had a guy put me on his favorites list. So I e-mailed and wrote, "What does that mean if you put me on your favorite list?" Like, hint, hint, he seemed promising.
The reply I got was, "I guess that means you are one of my favorites." Duh. I guess not so promising!
Sounds like everything is normal - I know it is frustrating - but there are good ones - you just have to weed through to find them.
As for what to say? How about a question about something specific in their profile? "I see we have a common interest in _____ - where do you like to go for that?" I think if they are interested they will write back with vigor. And if not, oh well.
Good luck and keep us posted.
I appreciate the suggestion, this is all so new to me.
I really think it is better if they pursue you - for the reasons you state. But sometimes in the sea of choices for OLD, you have to wave a little flag that says - what about me I am over here - and that is why I suggested asking a question to one if you like him - it gives him the chance to respond back, notice you and then pursue you if he chooses.
I think, if you work on good pix and writing about you and what you like - that will help the right one contact you.
Keep us posted - and good luck and welcome - we love to hear/read dating stories!!
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