How to make OLD contact/guys OLD pics

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Registered: 05-06-2008
How to make OLD contact/guys OLD pics
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Sat, 06-14-2008 - 12:03pm

I have been really frustrated with this OLD stuff.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 3:42pm

This is what irritates me:


The 38 year old man who wants

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 4:17pm

How about the 45 year old guy who wants a

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 4:43pm

Ugh- I know!


I had 50+ guys hitting on me, or just adding me to their favs list.


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Registered: 03-10-2008
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 5:18pm

I do not get the shirtless pics at all! Do men really think we want to see them shirtless?? Esp if they have a bird chest! WHAT!! Also on POF I get magically added to favorite lists with out the person EVER emailing me or saying Hi or anything...that is so odd...anyone know why guys do this??


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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 5:41pm

I've heard they add you to favs for one of two reasons:


1. they're scrolling through and putting a flag on you to contact you when they have more time or


2. it's like a wink and they add you in the hopes you'll check them out and if you like what you see, you'll message them.


I don't know- I found that some guys would add you to their favs, but if I found I liked their profile and contacted them they didn't seem to really want to get to know me... so that just seemed odd.


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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 8:38pm

I recently had a guy put me on his favorites list. So I e-mailed and wrote, "What does that mean if you put me on your favorite list?" Like, hint, hint, he seemed promising.

The reply I got was, "I guess that means you are one of my favorites." Duh. I guess not so promising!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 8:56pm

Sounds like everything is normal - I know it is frustrating - but there are good ones - you just have to weed through to find them.

As for what to say? How about a question about something specific in their profile? "I see we have a common interest in _____ - where do you like to go for that?" I think if they are interested they will write back with vigor. And if not, oh well.

Good luck and keep us posted.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 9:33pm

I appreciate the suggestion, this is all so new to me.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 9:46pm

I really think it is better if they pursue you - for the reasons you state. But sometimes in the sea of choices for OLD, you have to wave a little flag that says - what about me I am over here - and that is why I suggested asking a question to one if you like him - it gives him the chance to respond back, notice you and then pursue you if he chooses.

I think, if you work on good pix and writing about you and what you like - that will help the right one contact you.

Keep us posted - and good luck and welcome - we love to hear/read dating stories!!

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Sat, 06-14-2008 - 9:51pm
Too funny..... thanks for the laughs... it read like something from comedy central.... ROTFL

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