Am I over analyzing?
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Am I over analyzing?
| Tue, 06-17-2008 - 10:25am |
I've mentioned before that my bf has some trust issues - which I'm really trying to be sensitive to but sometimes I just don't get him.

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Hey Lisa - I am sure that you will get a few different perspectives on this, but I do not think you are overly sensitive or over analyzing at all.
For you to have encountered this kind of behaviour so often, particularly so early into a new relationship.....I would definitely be questioning it as well.
I really like the reply by Rose and agree and 2nd what she says.
Question - remember this post:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlsolomother/?msg=12318.1
What did you end up doing to resolve that one?
I can understand if he needs a day to sort through his thoughts. But it seems from what you write that he has a snuff about you missing his call and then he stonewalls - this is a bit much so early on. But maybe for now you can talk through it? I know I would feel the same way as you and I would not like it.
Thanks for the replies.
I think it is too early to jump to conclusions.
Next time he gives you that attitude of "nothing's wrong", then take it at face value and say, "ok".
ITA with Alison.
LOL - thank you for that response.
Alison has a great response on what to do or not to do. The thing is that you cannot carry his half of the bargain - and this is why you date - to see if you like him enough to keep going. It is okay to say you don't.
I could have written this:
"And I so don't need more stress in my life. Between working full time (and still never having enough money - sigh) and raising two children (who are the light of my life) I have my plate full. I truly desire to one day find a life partner, sounds kinda sappy, but it's true - who I can love with all my heart and who will love me the same way. I'll just never again let that desire cloud my mind to what's really going on. When I'm feeling really down, I just sometimes wonder "what's wrong with me?". I don't have any single friends and it sometimes seems that everyone has their "someone" and here I am just plodding along. I'm 40 btw."
It is dating in mid life! And there is nothing wrong with you.
Ugh- sinus infection BLAH!!!
Being constantly plagued with allergy gumminess, I feel your pain!
"It is dating in mid life! And there is nothing wrong with you."
Thanks for that.
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