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Registered: 01-27-2008
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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 8:50pm

Hello everyone!

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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: junebug2008
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 2:26am

Hello and welcome,


You are not being selfish for wanting to date or be in a relationship.... that is normal and even single moms deserve to date!!!!


Although, i do think it's still early... if you are getting asked out... by all means, find a sitter you trust and have fun!!!.... if you don't have any prospects right now, it's okay to take some time to focus on your life and your child.... take some time to define who you are.... your own interests. BE happy with YOU... then you will be ready to date and not feel like you have to depend on a man... not for financial support nor emotional support.


Everyone has there own time table.... it's okay to take time for YOU... and it is also okay to date. It's all about balance... that's what us single moms do... we are great at balancing all the responsibilites that we have... that's what make us courageous women! And even when i didn't think i had it in me..... somehow i did.... the more strength i needed, surprisingly, the more strength i had.... i'm sure you will find it in you too!!


Do what feels right to you...


for me, i waited two years after my daughter was born and after leaving the ex before dating again.... partly because i didn't know how to get back into it. and partly because i needed that time to define myself again. AFter defining myself, i was able to approach dating with strength and confidence..... it just felt right....


Hope i have helped..... and again.. welcome!


Love,


Loonybunny

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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: junebug2008
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 9:36am
I can relate to your experience.
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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: junebug2008
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 9:55am

Hi, and welcome!!!


First of all, thank you for your service!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2008
In reply to: junebug2008
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 8:46pm

Thanks Ladies, I really appreciate your honesty.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
In reply to: junebug2008
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 9:23pm

Youre not being selfish at all! You can be a mom and a single woman at the same time. Dont feel guilty for letting the babysitter have her for a night every now and then. Time for you makes you a better mother anyhow. I would say start dating whenever you feel like doing it.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: junebug2008
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:42am

Thanks for sharing more of your story.