just now dating and lost

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Registered: 06-18-2008
just now dating and lost
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 12:15am

I have recently started seeing someone for the first time ever really.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 6:42am

Hello and welcome!

It sounds like you are frustrated that you are not getting enough quality time with him and that you do not feel as much of a priority to him as he is to you. To me, that is the bottom line and one that he has to sort out in time. Maybe it is just a matter of him planning ahead a little more?

I think you can explain that you would like more quality time. And it is up to him to determine when and how. I don't think you can do this for him by inviting him to a party. His schedule with them will depend on their mom and their schedules and he is probably going with the flow.

Have you talked to him about the time together? I can empathize with him that he is tired from work and the girls. But I can also empathize with you a great deal on the time thing - because that has always been important to me.

Hopefully when the others wake up they will come and give their tips - I am sure that many have dealt with dating a guy with small children and they can offer their perspective and experiences for you - this is not something I have come across as of yet.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 10:00am
You know having two children that young it may be difficult for him to schedule around.