Dabbling in POF...

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Dabbling in POF...
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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 10:44am

I'm extremely busy with life, but decided to just dabble on the dating side. I don't want to pay for a site, because honestly, to me they aren't worth it anymore. Meetups for me are not for dating, only having friends. As we know, that all went wrong and I'm not going to do that again. So, I decided to do the cheap and free way to just see what happens.

I've had a ton of dorks, but a few really nice guys, so we'll see what happens. One is 43, one is around my age of 36 and one is 28 who only dates older women (artist hottie). LOL.

I'm really not interested in the young one, but its nice to just keep him around because he's interested and shows interest in me.

The guy my age is a tough one. Newly separated with twin 11 y.o. girls. Could be a difficult time and I really never date guys that are newly separated.

Guy who is 43 has been single for quite sometime, has a 12 year old son (if I remember correctly) and he has been out of his last relationship for a year and a half, which is good. That relationship lasted 3 years but she didn't want to be a step mom or have kids so he decided that she wasn't going to change her mind and moved on.

I'm really not that interested in having to go out with anyone. I kind of just like the emailing or the occasional call. I might meet the 43 for a drink this weekend, but I have so much going on that it doesn't really matter if it happens or not.

The artist is in LA with a art broker about his stuff

The just separated guy has his girls this weekend.

Anyway, that's the update on the man scene. Guess i'm not that enthusiastic, but I'm more into getting my house cleaned, girls ready for Monday and just relaxing.

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 12:14pm

Well honey there isn't any set rule that you have to jump in with both feet, just dip a toe in for now if that's all you want.

 
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 5:49pm

Speaking of newly separated. I have been there done that and will never do it again. Too much hell to go through with the divorce pending. Any separated guy who emails me gets a quick thanks but no thanks.


Laurie

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 7:13pm

I had done POF and only got really weird guys. Tried it again on Tuesday when Mr. Summer told me all those things a girl DOESN'T want to hear and, wow, there are some OK guys on now. Or maybe it's just me. I have had four relatively decent men e-mail just since yesterday (hope I am not putting out a desperation signal!). I have been given some phone numbers, but still trying to get over Mr. S, so I am really just trying to assess what it is that I want the next go round.

But it is fun to play, and such a nice ego boost. And, in a way, it is easier because if someone you know you aren't interested in approaches you, you don't have to do anything. IRL that can lead to awkward situations!

BTW, I agree, stay away from the newly separated and the forever separated. Toooo many issues.

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 7:50pm

Early after my divorce I met a guy on Match that had three small children and was going through separation.

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:56pm

I have a POF acct. No real luck - i rarely look though.

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 10:54pm
I think I had a date with him in June :-)
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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 11:33pm
Nothing really interests me enough. I saw a man tonight that works at the grocery store and we had the most awesome convo tonight for just a few minutes. It just went so well. I wish I knew if he was single or not, because I was sooooooo tempted to ask him out for a cup of coffee. Unfortunately, the grocery store is 40 minutes away from my usual place. DARN. I just felt so much better enjoying my time with him, then thinking of another OLD date. I'm just not interested enough or care enough it seems. I wonder why I'm even dabbling. I guess, just to see for fun and feel like if I could, I could just go out, but instead choose not too.
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Sat, 08-23-2008 - 1:47pm
Well, I think it is fun and kills the time just messing around with the site, reading profiles.