Whoooooo BOY. NC update

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Whoooooo BOY. NC update
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 5:05pm

So an update with NC, first, can I ask for some positive thoughts be sent his way? He was in an altercation (fist fight)

 

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 9:08pm

It seems like NC really likes and respects you, and I bet that even though things may slow down with him, once his divorce is final and things with the testing are complete, I believe he will come back to you to see how you are doing and if you are still interested in a relationship with him.

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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 11:09pm
Its got to be hard for you both - BUT, if he needs to pull back, better now, then later. You guys can see what then happens, down the road.
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Tue, 08-26-2008 - 11:31am
This is what "logical, third party me" says too. He needs some space and I'm more than willing to give it to him. Last thing I want is him to make a hasty decision involving me and then have it turn into a big mess down the road. I'm at the point where I care about him, but I can still pull back easily because it was made clear in the beginning he was not 100% available yet. If he needs to get some things straightened out first, that's more than fine. But like you, I

 

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Tue, 08-26-2008 - 11:54am

Exactly. And at this point, I think he's in deeper than I am. From his POV I'm totally available, yes I'm dating, but I don't have a pending divorce or anything like that. So his feelings might be emerging sooner knowing that, where as I see him as a casual dating relationship since he is not 100% available my brain wouldn't let my heart "go there". But if the divorce was final could I see myself getting serious with him? Yes, I could. WHEN the divorce is final.

 

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 1:01pm

Wow, you have a very clear head about this..and

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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 12:13am
Oh exactly! And I am open to keep on dating. I still talk with Mr. Mechanic, although we haven't gone out for a month now, Mr.Bobcat has officially been placed in the friends category heh heh but I'm still chatting with men online and just enjoying the process. Not letting myself get all focused and totally hung up on NC. If we reach a point of dating exclusively, we'll go from there. But right now, we're not there. I like him. But things need to follow their own path and not be pushed in any specific direction.