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| Sun, 09-07-2008 - 11:55am |
Found this in a book I was reading last night. I think it was screaming my name, but I am interested if anyone else sees something familiar in it. I lifted it from "Lovesick, the Marilyn Syndrome". Found it in the local library, it's kind of old, but...
Mr. Wrong or Mr. Right?
If you're instantly attracted to him he is Mr. Wrong
If sparks fly, hotter than the Fourth of July, he's Mr. Wrong.
If you her wedding bells chime the second you meet him he's Mr. Wrong
If you want to go to bed with him and start thinking about sex the minute you meet him h's Mr. Wrong
If you get goose bumps just looking at him he's Mr. Wrong.
If you start to obsess over him, lose you to him the first second you meet him (or even half an hour afterwards) he is absolutely, positively 100 percent Mr. Wrong.
If you have to chase him, start to plan the campaign to win him over, he is Mr. Wrong.
If you think he's nice but feel no big-time instant hot chemistry, he's a potential Mr. Right.
If you like him but don't care if you see hm again because you don't feel hot, because you haven't felt goosebumps and you haven't lost your you, he's a potential Mr. Right.
If you feel that he could be a friend, he's a potential Mr. Right.
If you feel that he likes you, is on your case, your trail, is starting to mount a campaign to get you and this gets you nervous, it's a sure shot that he's a potential Mr. Right.
You've chosen a Mr. Wrong all your life, every time, because you believed in chemistry: if someone turned you on, THAT was love: you were attracted like a magnet to rejection, repelled by love.

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Your name and mine must be the same because I swear it was screaming my name, too!
Hmmmm. Well it IS an interesting article!
I wonder if I am just a dreamer... but I hope that I can have sparks right off the bat, and be sexually attracted and have some mad chemistry and still have that turn INTO a solid thing. Can't we have both? I hope so!!!
I agree, Pac.
I was wondering for a minute if suddenly CM was Mr. Wrong??
I am going to validate you and let you know that this can be true. Yes, you can have immediate (and even lasting sparks with a mr.right) but if you are prone to choosing inappropriate men due to your own issues then it is a clear sign of mr. wrong. I learned this in therapy. When you keep choosing the wrong type of guy, the common denominator is you. You are drawn to like in that if you have an issue you seek similarity. (I am sure I am getting this wrong but my therapist was awesome at breaking this down) Until you fix what is broken in you, you will continue to have strong sparks with those who fit that issue.
So sparks are good but if you have a history of falling head over heels, lust at first sight for the wrong guy then heed this as a warning.
I like that.. the common denominator is YOU!!!
This can truly work to our advantage. When i work on me and create a joyful me... the thing to follow is meeting a date worth keeping... or i don't meet anyone while i'm working on "me"
either way... working on self health is always a winning scenerio.
(although i'm learning my problem is not meeting men but staying sane while getting to know them... for some reason, i turn into freakazoid...... oops... but as long as i own "freakazoid" as my issue, forgive myself,and ask others for forgivenes... i should be alright.)
Loonybunny ~ moving forward
I totally agree. This goes a long with my Doormat No More post I put up today.
What it comes down to is I am a classic codependent, if not the poster child. I choose men who I fall head over heels for, who have something really "off" about them...drugs, alcohol, trust issues, control. But I let the fact that he is gorgeous, charismatic, whatever sway me from the fact that he doesn't care about me because he CAN'T. I saw that as a cue for me to "fix" the problem, or be "understanding" of the problem. I thought I had this figured out with the divorce, but I think I needed this last thing to prove to me that I can't "fix" anyone.
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