Would you date a Muslim man?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Would you date a Muslim man?
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Fri, 09-12-2008 - 9:17pm

Hows THAT for a hot topic?


I will preface this with the fact that I far from a bigot.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 9:25pm

no...


i whole heartedly believe in being equally yoked.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 9:30pm
? totally didnt get that Loony! Sorry! lol
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 9:32pm

Ok, i googled it, lol.


http://www.childoflight.org/yoked.html

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 9:34pm
I could not and would not date someone who has such drastic and different beliefs than I do regardless of what race/religion/culture they are.
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 9:49pm

Well... there's a difference between a Muslim and a Taliban man... while the Muslims do have different rules that Western culture seems to find oppressive, I think it's more the Taliban rules that people think of when they think "Muslim"... since they take the basic rights and freedoms that the Muslims allow away.

Here's what I mean: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_in_Islam

vs http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taliban_treatment_of_women

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 10:04pm

i'm saying the same thing as traumaJ, though.


yoked ... is in reference to two oxes pulling a load. The yoke is the thing that keeps them together as they are pulling. Unequally yoked would be one of them was pulling harder or maybe they are trying to go in different directions all together. You can imagine that wouldn't be a harmonious partnership.

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 10:27pm

If he was an Americanized Muslim and not particularly devout, yes. I would not date a super religious Catholic either and I am Catholic.
Lately, for some reason it seems every book I pick up for my pleasure reading is about Middle Eastern culture. Started with A Thousand Splendid Suns, then Kabul Beauty School, Digging to America, and the Blood of Flowers. All depict that culture a little differently. I really never would become a Muslim, nor move to a Muslim country.

Hey, but Rlch, you'd fit right in on one account. In Afghan culture, and this is not a Taliban thing, they have a tradition that on the night before you marry, both the bride and groom remove ALL body hair and facial hair except eyebrows lashes and hair on top of your head. With the Taliban, men had to leave the beard on.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 1:02am
I would not for those exact reasons. They have a low opinion of women. OT, my 5 yr old daughter had a muslim friend, also 5. I no longer allow them to play together. He said things like you have to listen to me because I'm a boy and you're a girl. Or girls can't do that. He learns at home. (he's a child, he doesn't know any better but I don't want my daughter around it).
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 9:38am

although I have seen many very sincere and smart muslim guys, my first instinct is to say NO. Not all muslims are of the same ideas.


It is hard to say, but one date wont hurt- still I would give it very serious thought before jumping any further.


Is he settld with job and residency in US? Does he plan to eventually go back? Is he very religious? Was he married before?


Me and Biker share different religions, but non of us is very religious.. and we enjoy the festivals and celeberations in both culture and we have fun.


I say go with your instinct.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 10:52am
I'm going to be different from most of the posts and say I would.
 

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