Wow, just wow... Intimidating guy update
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| Sun, 09-21-2008 - 8:13am |
Someone breakout the fan.. cause I may need to be cooled off after this report! First of all, I can't call him intimidating man anymore. So since Rlch's German Guy is gone, we're going to snag "German". He moved here when he was a teenager from Germany. He still has the slightest bit of an accent when he really gets going with a story that just puts butterflies in my stomach its so cute!
Oh where to begin! Well, this was the most amazing short little coffee date EVER! I was so nervous when I pulled up I didn't even want to get out of my car! We met for coffee over on his perfect little nook of town that intimidates me! lol. I was on my way to work, and in my scrubs and had all my gear on LOL. I walked up towards the coffee shop and I could see him with his back facing me, I knew it was him. I leaned over the fence and said "pst!" haha. He turned around and gave me the sweetest longest hug ever! I can't remember ever getting a hug that sweet and that long! We walked into the coffee shop together, and he held the door for me, then reached down and held my hand. I was thinking omg are you kidding me? Is this guy to good to be true or WHAT? The entire thing was ladies first, manners all the way, chair pulled out, doors opened.. I was wowed.
When we got our coffee we went back outside to the table he had on the patio where he left his jacket. Well, we sit down and he pulls out a bouquet of flowers out from under his jacket! Now, these were not just ANY flowers!! He goes grocery shopping for his mother every Saturday, and he told her he had a date that day. She told him to go pick some flowers out of her garden for me! So he picked some pretty lavendar flowers, then went to the grocery store and put some babies breath around them and had them wrapped up. OMG!! He was so proud that he arranged them all himself haha. Since I'm working the next four days (12 hours a day) I put them in water at work so we're all enjoying them there :)
At one point I tripped over my tongue, and I said I'm sorry I'm just really nervous! He said Oh I am too! And I remembered seeing his hand shake a bit when I first got there, and just thought I was imagining it haha.
Anyway, so the conversation was wonderful, eye contact was amazing, hands held on and off the entire time, and I had another great and wonderful long hug goodbye. I'm such a dork.. as he's hugging me I said "You're smelling my hair aren't you?" He laughed and said yes. It was all just great! The entire time it felt like we were the only two people on earth... work? I have to go to work? What work?! lol.. I hated to leave I was having such a great time.
He is so handsome, so polite, has the most amazing smile, and really just a beautiful person inside and out I'm seeing. I had to attach a picture so you all can see.. I really do need to be fanned off here. This short little date left my head spinning, me smiling all night long at work! What really has me excited about this one is that there are no "buts" (YET!! lol). There's no bad timing of a recent separation, or crazy school schedule... we're both in the exact same place wanting the exact same things. So at least the foundation is there that I have not had recently with men I've dated. I'm really excited to see how this one plays out. Wow, just wow!

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He is very handsome... it sounds like a scene from a movie! Keep us posted. Smiles
Glad you had a great time. hope there are many more to come. Also did all the girls at work wonder why you had such a permagrin?
JL
ps- he's cute
OMG... so I went to bed this morning all happy and excited and wake up to this email:
Hey hon, bet you had a busy night. It was very crowded downtown last night. Meant to at least respond to your text, but was busy right of the bat. Got threatened a lot, and someone actually pulled a gun, but no fights.
I too had fun meeting you yesterday. You're great all around- I just didn't get those 'tingles' I was hoping for. Really sucks, because I thought for sure I would, after everything went so well online and stuff *sighs*. I'm rather dissappointed....I'm hoping at least I made a really cool friend in you. Thank you for the chance. -Mike
Hmm, I'm ok though. Kind of odd after the way the date went, but I'm ok. I guess maybe all the sweet stuff was trying to force some tingles that he was hoping for? Who knows. He still is a very beautiful person.. but ahh well!
what a bummer that email was... But I'm glad you had a really great date. Helps to keep the bar high for the next one.
Hugs,
Loonybunny
Thats exactly how I'm looking at it loony.. the whole thing was a bit of
Wait, he held your hand almost the whole date and then said there were no sparks??? WTF??? Toss him back to the creep pond!
Too bad there isn't a spot on these dating sites where you can rate the date, hey?
Lol!
Well, I would say it wasn't intimidation that was setting you off- the guy was a sleaze and you were picking up those signals!
When I was doing POF, I always cringed when guys were too flirty without meeting me in person or tried to do kissing/ touching in the first date. On the first date, I'm deciding if there's chemistry there for me to want a second date... you jump all over me I'm walking the other way, because I do not want to be a notch on your headboard...
Any other prospects?
Well, no I am not getting any kind of sleeze vibe from him at all. I got a very good and pure stand-up guy vibe from him.. and I still do. Nothing was ever overly flirty or pushy... I see those guys all the time, lol they're a dime a dozen. Thats why I still say he's just a beautiful person.. I really think he is. I just don't understand why he would just sit there and hold me in this long embrace, and hold my hand.
I can think of one time where I was with someone and kicking myself for just not feeling anything. I just wanted someone to smack me in the back of the head and say GET WITH THE PROGRAM!! I'm wondering if maybe that was it.. the reason for the affection he showed. He never tried to kiss me, and the conversation has always been on the up and up with him.
I do wish that if that was the case that he would of allowed us to have a few more dates. I remember back in my 20's going on a date with this guy and I wasn't attracted to him and very bored the entire time. I entertained a second date basically for the lack of anything to do that night and during dinner he reached over and touched my arm. All of the sudden I just had these amazing sparks for him.. there was something in that touch.. and we ended up dating for nearly a year.
So yah.. if thats the case, I really do wish he would have given it another date or two. Who knows maybe we'll be friends and you never know.. but I do have to stand up for the guy here that I'm sure he meant no harm.. really great guy. I'm just kind of baffled I guess.
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