I think MM asked me out???

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Registered: 03-25-2002
I think MM asked me out???
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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 3:05pm

Hi all,


not sure but he may have just asked me out... unfortunately it's my kid weekend and i had to say no....


Here's the scoop: he

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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 3:39pm

That was a very casual move on his part don't ya think. As much as i like this guy, and get the good guy vibe (as

Jenn ~~~ mom to Ashley & Elliott ~~~

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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 5:36pm

MM sounds like me..lol. This is similar to how "I KIND OF ASKED BIKER OUT". Yes you read it right..The shy, modest me. I was dying for some alone time with him and there was no sign of him asking me out- besides we work together so I knew he had reservations. So I sent him an e-mail saying " The weather is good. If you going out driving I would join". He replied" sorry the only trip planned today is by bike".. He was almost on his way out when he got my message.


I did sound very casual..didnt I? But only I know how I was sad that I cant spend the day with him. I almost shed few drops of tears..lol...I really wanted his company..I decided I wont ask him out or act interested anymore. Afterall I am the woman here..I want to be pursued. So later around 4.30 or

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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 5:49pm

Lol- loony quit over analyzing every move the guy makes. He's obviously interested in getting to know you better, so get to know him. If he decides he wants to ask you out or just stay friends, only time will tell... but for now, think of him as just a guy who thinks you're cool and wants to hang.

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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 6:45pm
I agree with the other posts as well. I think he is showing interest and he was definitely asking you out but that you shouldnt take offense if it is a bit casual sounding. I think you have been used to dating younger guys right? Sometimes they come on stronger than guys in their thirties in my experience. A younger guy will try to impress you right off the bat whereas an older guy has more confidence and is more comfortable in his own skin letting things happen organically. Even SYB who was and is still in his twenties took his time in the beginning in large part because he was still getting over his last relationship and wanted to be ready if he was going to have us both invest time and thought in one another. Maybe MM just got out of something and is proceeding with caution? Also I remember SYB telling me he didnt feel any rush with me because I seemed so happy with how my life was already - not really sending out the need a man vibe the way younger women sometimes do. Now looking back on it I love the fact that it took us some time to get things started. Once we did start dating we were off to the races but neither of us wanted to waste the others time so we did give it some thought first. I really think you are used to some guys doing a lot in the beginning to get your attention and unfortunately in my experience that can mean they are compensating for something I find out down the road that blows up in my face. Better slow and steady with nothing to prove sometimes, you know?
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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 9:42pm
Awww...you are making progress. We can all see he has an interest. He moves slow and is taking the time to get to know you. These are all good things. Don't sweat it and give him a little help here. Maybe you can suggest an alternative outing. BTW: the river is a popular hangout but you aren't missing much. My ex really wanted to go earlier this summer ( I remember it from my young days) Yeah...the novelty has worn off. Unless he mentioned Belle Isle which is a part of the river that is pretty cool and has some history to it. Oooh...you two should go to Belle Isle and then take a walk on the canal walk...very romantic.
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Registered: 08-28-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 12:34pm

Loony--


He is totally asking you out! I think that it just feels different to you because maybe most guys before have been really overt about it. But MM is taking time. And IMO that is a good thing. He is kindling the flames instead of torching them..and the warm up will get very hot, don't you think? I also know how anticipation can make it even better. AND you are getting to know each other. All good things!


So ya...he asked you out definately. Have you been able to talk to him since and offer up an alternative for your next kid free day?


I like the way this is unfolding! I would chalk up this new way of getting to the first date as a combination of experiance and his personal style. Enjoy the excitiment and go for it!

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 2:37pm

i think your theory is probably correct. I'm used to guys diving right in with bold statements etc... but alas, they also bail out as quickly as they dove in...