Saw this one coming a mile away...
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Saw this one coming a mile away...
| Thu, 11-13-2008 - 12:49pm |
So Irish's psycho ex has gone through all of his emails and gotten my first and last name, where I work, and my phone number.
OH YAY!
She actually made threats to him about things she would do if he didn't do "x. y, z". Like hunt me down at work and stuff like that. One of the demands was that he go to one counseling session with her. I was like well there's nothing wrong with that. Hell I'd even offer her three.. but after that I'd be like you're on your own! Next was that he had to take the kids every weekend, and come visit 2 nights a week. When

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What kills me also is that this is a casual relationship! We're not even exclusive! I have to deal with all of this for casual? JEEZE!
But like I told him.. if it were just him without all of these outside issues then I'd be putty in his hands. He said yah now I see why you don't date men who are separated less than a year. I said yep.. imagine if we had met a year from now.. things would be pretty different I'm sure.
Yah, Cat I've given thought to walking away for a while and giving him time to sort this out without me involved.
The "exs" behavior leads me to think that maybe Irish has not been as 'cut and dry' about the divorce and severing emotional ties with her as he is leading you to believe. She seems to be reacting in a way that makes her seem fearful, confused and threatened. If Irish has in no uncertain terms already cut the ties and and told her so, why is she reacting like he is still hers?
I just wonder if Irish is telling her what she wants to hear in order to keep the peace. Letting her call the shots, and soothing her emotional needs and wants. Maybe he is still playing into that. It is still fresh.... neither of them have had efficient time to heal from each other.
And when you think of it that way, its no ones fault. Its just an unfortunate reality, that divorce takes a huge emotional toll that no one can just get over and move on so quickly.
Be careful- if you keep seeing Irish you are very likely to be the one he jumps to like a frog on lily pads. One relationship right into another. No time to heal in between and this could likely bring all his drama into your life. Including his baggage, ex, and unhealed life.
I'm not trying to be harsh. But it all sounds so raw and unhealed.
You are very likely to be the one he jumps to like a frog on lily pads. One relationship right into another.
You are likely to be his transitional woman.
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I would tell him that he needs to get some stuff straight and that you would like to give him that time.
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