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| Sun, 11-16-2008 - 5:16pm |
So today, Sunday, I finally hear back from the guy I er, um, went a little far with on Tuesday. SUNDAY. This is after a sent an email (since I left three messages that never got answered) saying, hey, what is going on, I haven't heard from you and would just like to know what is going on...
This afternoon I get the MOST hostile email back saying how offended he was at my overanalyzing and how DARE I want him to call me on MY schedule, he had a cold (I guess that means you can't pick up the phone?), I'm rude, that I am a total turn-off to him now, Good-bye! He chides me for not having said "hello" first, but I guess four phone messages saying "Hi, hope you are feeling better, give me a call" don't count.
Now, mind you, the guy has been on the website on which we "met" tons, including the evening after we had done the deed. I had started sending an email (didn't finish or send), so I had to log onto the site, and I could see the exact times he was on. Yeah, that feels good. So yes, he did return a phone call on Thursday, left a message, but didn't pick up the phone Thursday, Friday, or Saturday. I left a message on Thursday and one on Friday, then gave up.
So, in his world, you sleep with a woman, don't make much of an attempt to get in touch for several days afterward, and when she wants to know 4 or 5 days later what is up, she is rude, pushy and overbearing. Wowza.

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I guess he never figured I would call him on it. But wow, he really came out swinging! I figure that he must be the type who always needs to be right. What was interesting is that before this he was VERY polite and attentive, called when he said he would, etc. Then, five days of no call (after the deed)and all of a sudden "I" am the bad person.
You are so right...at least I know now!
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You are definitely better off without him.
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Tracy
This might come off as a bit harsh but this guy is a freak and shouldnt be dating! Just my opinion but what kind of guy goes online and looks at women the same night after making love to one?! Thats a little weird. I am glad you found out about him early on and wont waste your time with him anymore. Sorry you had to go through that. Dont listen to one word of his email. He is a freak.
Laurie
I'm sorry but I ALWAYS have something to say to those guys like that. You have a wonderful date, you kiss goodnight and then you never hear from them again. Sometimes three great dates, and you never hear from them again. I'm not horribly mean or anything like that. However.. I'll always thank them the next day for a great night either via email or phone. I don't feel like thats me jumping on them for more conversation or more attention.. but its me making contact, and being polite. If they ghost on me and its a week later I normally send a voice mail or email saying something to the effect of.. "well, now don't I feel foolish" I don't know why thats become my ghoster line LOL.
Its simple cowardness. They're dating around.. they're dating more than you. They went out with a woman who greatly grabbed their attention (typical Irish and I right now) so they're attention is going towards someone else. This happens sometimes after the first or third date. Its normal its ok. Whats not ok is that they don't have the guts to step up and say hey i met someone.
I was talking to Irish when Medic and I wanted to make things work one more time. Irish and I had a date planned even. I was totally honest with Irish that an ex and I wanted to try to make things work one more time, I'm sorry if I wasted his time but I would regret it if I didn't try one more time. Of course THAT lasted like one week lol.
Believe me, I'm not trying to be harsh, because in all honesty, I've met a few men and couldn't last a week, because I hadn't had any in so long. However, it NEVER lasted. It didn't even last when I was with someone for a month. I just think these things need to wait and their are WAY to many women (like i have) that give it up to quickly. OLD is great for a place like that.
Other option, like RLCH and I have, is a FWB (well, I had one and the other one I have is too far away, so doesn't count). You get one and you won't be tempted as quickly to sleep with the guy you REALLY like. Most important is that like a man, you separate between the emotion and the deed. If you can't do that, then you better leave that alone too. :)
Again, it's over, you can be ticked off, but in the end you knew he was a jerk.
Big hugs to you!!!!!!!
I have, is a FWB (well, I had one and the other one I have is too far away, so doesn't count). You get one and you won't be tempted as quickly to sleep with the guy you REALLY like.
I agree with this.
It's amazing how much stuff you find out AFTER you've done the deed and it's too late.
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