Just want to share...

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2008
Just want to share...
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Wed, 11-19-2008 - 11:28am

Hello All!


I have been lurking on this board for a while.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 11:39am

Welcome to the board!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 12:04pm

Thanks for your reply, Moon.

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 1:10pm

Hello!! Welcome again :o)


From what you have written about BL I get the picture of a successful, charismatic man who has been happy and feels safe in his bachelor roll. He seems to like you very much...and he threw out the disclaimer early "I'm not ready for serious...I put my son and business first). I agree with putting the children first, but the work thing is optional. Perhaps he is one of those guys who is very serious about his work. And that can be respectable but you have to know and accept that going in. That he will likely work through long hours and weekends and in the future chose work hours over couple time hours.


But you are right when you point out that actions speak louder. It is nice that he he showing you this attention and you seem to be moving forward. Maybe you are right, that women in the past have been too needy too fast so he pushed away. If he is gravitating towards you that is great. I suppose that my advice would be to keep your wits about you.. be cautious for a while, because he may very well be

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Registered: 10-01-2007
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 1:18pm

Welcome!! So glad you decided to share with us!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 1:22pm
Hello hello, and welcome!!
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 1:28pm

Sounds great. But i think sometimes, OFTEN, actions mean more than words. I think with guys, sometimes DEFINING something, scares them. I dont see any reason you "need" a definition at this stage. Things are great & going along well. As always, i woudl caution you letting the kids get TOO comfy though. 3 months is still early in a relationship

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Registered: 06-18-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 1:36pm

Hi Pac Sun!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 2:01pm

Thanks for the welcome cool cat!


Your concern has been mine, as well.

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sat, 11-22-2008 - 12:55am
Hi and welcome. Dating the confirmed bachelor type can be tricky. My conversation with DF was basically "I'm not dating anyone else." "Me neither." "Good let's keep it that way." Otherwise the only time I think he has really referred to me as his girlfriend was when he had to have a talk with his best work friend to let him know I was not available. Actions definitely speak louder with these men. Watch for the signs.
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