how can i tell my parents that i LOVE hi
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how can i tell my parents that i LOVE hi
| Wed, 11-19-2008 - 11:50pm |
please help.. ive known this guy named morgan for about three years now.
| Wed, 11-19-2008 - 11:50pm |
please help.. ive known this guy named morgan for about three years now.
Welcome to the board Sweet!
Thanks for sharing your story... I will give you my thoughts.
I don't think it's Morgan that you need to make your parents see in a new light: it's YOU. You need to show your parents that you are NOT that girl who made the poor decision of dating a jerk, that you're self sufficient and responsible. Right now they see you as their little girl who still needs her parent's help- especially since you're living at home.
Are you working? Did you finish school? I assume you're in your early 20's as you have "20 something hangout" on your fav boards listing... please correct me if I'm wrong? I was 22 when I had my son and my (now ex) lived with his parents for that first year in order to save some money- which of course didn't happen cause my ex blew it all on himself :( Two years later I was on my own and MUCH better off- 9 yrs later I own my own business and my son and I are JUST fine :)
If you want your parents to see that Morgan is a good choice for you, then you need to show them you've matured, you're responsible, and you ARE making GOOD choices for yourself and your child. Otherwise your parents are going to continue to see you as a child making irresponsible choices and dislike anyone that you bring into your daughter's life.
I am not always proud of the things I've done or been through, but I'm proud of being the Mom I always have been to my girls.
Hello, and Welcome Sweet home,
*sigh*
I read your story and I really do not want to sound pessimistic, so I will try and keep this positive. But I see so many things that may be very hard for you to see right now. It might take you time and experience to "see" these things..as you are feeling in love right now and its hard to see outside of that.
But I have to tell you that I am sad for every child involved in this situation right now. In particular.. you mentioned Morgan is going to "move them out" meaning his CHILD and the mother of his child. He will do this because why? Because he wants you now? Is that fair to a child? And who is to say that he will not turn around and move you and your child out next time he has a change of heart?
Please consider the children first, over your feelings, over his feelings. How secure will they feel, how sure are you that this will be a drama free situation.
As for you parents. Do you really blame them for their concern? You, Morgan and his brother were involved in drugs and you lived with a man who you are now afraid of. Your parents are justifiably worried that you will go back to another bad situation, and worse yet bring your child into that.
How can you guarantee that the bad brother will not show up and be Mr Drama. I'm sorry- but think about the best bet for yourself and your child. Start again by getting on YOUR feet, being able to take care of yourself and your child. Maybe stop dating right now. Get on your feet. You can do that!! Then reconsider getting with someone who has the same drug history you want to avoid, and who has family that will likely always use.
Its only my 2 cents. But I feel that a new start is in order. Cut the ties with the shady past and begin again...with your child in mind as priority number one, You can do it.
you are all right now that i have read your responses.
Bravo, Bama!!!
and who says i need a man right now anyway, when ppl ask me if im dating anyone now adays i always say