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| Fri, 11-28-2008 - 11:02pm |
When it rains, it pours. Problem: two guys wanting to go out with me.
Guy one: very, very nice. Mellow, but with a nice sense of humor. Does lots of charitable work, a good heart. Lots of eclectic interests that I also have. I have been out with him twice, he calls a lot, wants to see me again on Sunday. My only concern is that he seems to want to be a "couple" really fast. He works from home, both his kids are away at school, so I feel a little too focused on so early in the game.
Guy two: also very nice. Very funny. "Gets" me in the way that my really close friends do...in fact, I feel like I have known him forever. Going out with him again tomorrow. Daughters are the same age as mine, and he has had them for the holiday, and he seems to understand that I have to be with my kids when I am not at work...in other words, I can't devote all my time to him
I like both men very much, but I lean towards guy two because, well, it just seems so easy. I talk to him in a way I don't talk to guy one, because I don't feel like I need to "hide" my real self. I am sure that there are skeletons in the closet, so I am not idealizing this person.
It's early on, I know. But I don't have a huge amount of spare time, I got lucky this week with the holiday, so I was able to see more of these guys, and they both knew school was out, so they stepped up the calls during the day. I feel like I have to make a choice soon because I don't want to string anyone along.
Plus, I can't cope with the juggling! I am terrified I am going to return the wrong guy's call or send the wrong text message.
It's amazing how I went from 'men suck' two weeks ago to this. Now I feel like things are speeding out of control fast! I really need to put on the brakes but I don't know how because I have never been in this situation before. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Trust your gut -- if you think guy #2 is the one you are most comfortable with, put your energies there.
Seems like you've sort of made the choice.
Jenn ~~~ mom to Ashley & Elliott ~~~
Update: date #2 with guy #2 went sooo well. Like I said, I talk to him like I have known him forever. I'm not seeing it through rose colored glasses, either...he's got kid/ex issues like all of us, so it ain't perfect. But after I got home last night he called me to talk some more (which made my kids think I was nuts. "Weren't you just with that guy???")
Now I have to figure out how to tell the other one I am moving on. He's so nice, I feel bad about it, even though my interest in him has waned a lot. Believe it or not, I have never been in this position before (breaking it off with someone), so I don't know the right way to do it!
Just be gentle as possible when you do it. Maybe tell him that he's really amazing but the chemistry just isn't there for you. Then he knows it's not him just the you and him combo that doesn't work.
My kids give me the same expressions when DF calls. "Didn't you just see him today?" LOL!
Well after ONLY two dates with the first guy you don't really OWE him an explanation of length, do you? If he asks you out on another date you can just decline and say that you feel there's no match and wish him luck.
Lol about the kid's comment- they are SOOO perceptive at times!